Cinderella. Mulan. Snow White. Jasmine.
When my children were small, Stacey, a family friend lived with us. Stacey was a collector of Disney movies so for several years my kids felt like they had their very own Blockbuster under our roof. They loved nothing more than to knock on Stacey’s door and beg to borrow a movie. Of course, the girls always chose the princess flicks.
Growing up The Wonderful World of Disney introduced me to the world of princesses, but a girl was lucky if these movies came on once a year! We were forced to use our imagination; fill our playtime with ideas of balls, gowns and princes; images we’d gleaned from books.
I’m not all that sure that the princess saturation in this generation has really done our girls a benefit. In fact, the word “princess” in our house is now a negative term. “Princess” refers to a girl who needs to be catered to; have every whim met when and where she wants; a girl whose ego is bigger than it should be.
Have we done our girls a disservice and created a princess problem or is something else going on?
Dallas Willard, in “The Divine Conspiracy” says, “Egotism is a pathological self-obsession, a reaction to anxiety about whether one really does count…[it] can be prevented and healed only by the experience of being adequately loved. It is, indeed, a desperate response to frustration of the need we all have to count for something and be held to be irreplaceable, without price.”
He goes on to say, “…the drive to significance is a simple extension of the creative impulse of God that gave us being…We were built to count, as water is made to run downhill. We are placed in a specific context to count in ways no one else does. That is our destiny…Our hunger for significance is a signal of who we are and why we are here…”
I texted this passage to my son yesterday. He,too, needed to be reminded that the need inside of him for significance is a God-given need; one He is waiting to fill; one only He can fill.
Our girls need this reminder too. Gently, we should remind them that true significance comes when we find value in being not only a part of God’s amazing creation, but part of His plan to bring His perfect love to imperfect earth. We find that worth when we fill our hearts with unconditional love, so full, we cannot help but spill over onto those around us.
Friend, are you full and spilling out today?
Some days, (or some nights like last night), what I spill out is not so pretty! But as you and I become wiser women, there will become more and more days where we are spilling out of our hearts the overflow of His radical love.
The more our kids see us finding out significance in being known by Perfect Love, the more they will know “being a princess” is not in what we do, how we look or who we know. It’s in whose we are!
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Speak significance over your child today!