Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: I Don’t Want to Fit In




“Then a herald shouted out, “People of all races and nations and languages, listen to the king’s command! When you hear the sound of the horn, flute, zither, lyre, harp, pipes, and other musical instruments, bow to the ground to worship King Nebuchadnezzar’s gold statue. Anyone who refuses to obey will immediately be thrown into a blazing furnace.” Daniel 3:4-6 (NLT)

I knew I needed to stop talking about him, but as a new bride, I just couldn’t. Fresh and new, I could often be found talking about my amazing husband!

In my work environment though, I quickly realized being happy while being married wasn’t all that popular. The positive comments I made about my husband stood out from the daily hubby bashing of my peers. So it didn’t take me long to find my own complaints about marriage to add to the conversations.

I worked to find something negative about Greg to throw in the fire. But though my words fit in well with my peers, my negative comments hurt my heart. I knew better. It wasn’t a matter of simply letting something slip; I was choosing to be someone I was not.

When we hear the word “peer pressure”, we often think of just teenagers. But pressure to conform doesn’t go away once we leave our school days. It isn’t limited to just one age, people or status group. In one form or another, every culture is influenced by pressure to belong.

In our key verse today, King Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon had set up an image which he commanded people of all races and nations and languages to bow down to. All people, of all types, were subject to his pressure to conform.

We, too, are daily under pressure.

To conform by bad mouthing about our spouses. To keep our clothes, cars or condos up to date. To meet society’s demands about body image. Daily we can be pushed to “bow down” to the gods of bellyaching, buying, and beauty.

My early marriage days are long gone, but I still experience the pressure of society’s standards.

But I’ve decided: I don’t want to do it any more.

I don’t want to fit in if fitting in means I go against God’s best for His glory and my good.

Like the three brave young men who stood up to the king in Daniel 3, we can be brave. We can reach out to our Jesus for the strength, courage and determination to not “bow down” to culture’s definition of behavior. Boldly, we can choose to be women who exude the traits of Jesus – the fruit of the Spirit. And in turn, we can teach our daughters to be bold too!

When we display love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control we become different.

And it’s a different that is gorgeous and godly.

Jesus, it is all too easy for me to just go along each day with what society calls “normal”. Yet You call me to stand up and stand out for You. Help me today to choose to be different; choose to allow Your life to flow through mine. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Galatians 5:22-23, “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!” (NLT)

Can you think of a young woman you would like to empower to be bold; to go against culture’s definition of beauty to glorify God? Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants gives girls the tools they need to do just that!

For every copy of Magnetic purchased today, Lynn is giving away a free magnet with the quote, “Gorgeous is more than a face in the mirror” (like the graphic today).


Just send me a copy of your receipt along with your mailing address to and I’ll get it sent right out!



Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Gorgeous is More Than A Face In A Mirror


Loosing weight.

    Shopping the right stores.

           Getting designer make-up.

For over 13 years I have watched girls do all the “right” things for the guy they wanted.

If they thought it would attract “him”, they tried it. And often, after changing the way they looked, the way they acted and the girl they actually were…he still didn’t want them.

And so she starts asking, “What’s wrong with me?”

What if we came alongside her; helping her reach past becoming what she thinks someone else wants to something even greater?

Instead of fixating on what that guy wants, she switched her focus. Started investing her time, energy and emotions becoming the girl He wants. God.

* A girl who focuses on others; makes them feel loved.

* So joyful; she’s fun to be around!

* Resisting girl drama; she’s peaceful.

* Patient with others; she has time for them.

* Kind and good. “I was only joking” isn’t a line she has to use.

* Faithful; she has your back not talks behind it. Not needing attention, she’s kind and gentle.

* Comfortable with who she is, she’s intentional about her choices because her priority is honoring herself and her God.

A girl like that, displaying the fruit of the Spirit, or what I call the captivating characteristics, is magnetic.  

She’s absolutely gorgeous!  

book_bannerI am so excited! Today is finally the date of the Magnetic release!

Packed with revealing quizzes, interviews with guys and the tools your girl needs to become the girl God wants her to be, (the girl she wants to be!) Magnetic; Becoming the Girl He Wants will empower her to:

  •  Stop feeling powerless over her emotions and people’s opinions as she gains unshakeable confidence.
  • Limit the draining affect of “girl drama” so she can invest her time in becoming the best she can be.
  •  Replace the agonizing frustration of wanting to be noticed and liked with a deep assurance that she already is!


Order her a copy today!

If you purchase Magnetic through Proverbs 31 Ministries today, I’ll be sure to sign it!

Not sure if Magnetic is the right book for your girl? Learn more and read the first few chapters here for free!

Today, at Proverbs 31 Ministries, on my devotion, Dying to My Selfie, my publisher is giving away 10 copies of Magnetic. Stop by at!


Monday, September 15, 2014

Last Two Days to Enter This Week’s Give Away!



Wow! I can’t believe we are already on our last week of Magnetic give aways!

This week’s give away is…

A Year’s Worth of Pedicures


Beautiful toes year round! How wonderful!




And for the Magnetic Book Launch Party GRAND PRIZE GIVEAWAY

An All-Expenses Paid Weekend Getaway

This trip includes:
• Round-trip airfare for two from anywhere in the U.S. to Charlotte, NC
(up to $800)

• Two-night, three-day stay at the Hampton Suites Phillips Place Court
(you pick the dates!)

• Pedicures for you and your girl with Lynn and her girls

• Transportation to and from the airport

• 2 personalized signed copies of Magnetic!

{also included, should you choose to come October 10 – 11th, the weekend includes tickets for you and your girl to attend the Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants conference here in Charlotte!}

Be sure to click here to enter! 



Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Did You Make the List Too?



Did you make out your list too?

You know, that list, of all of the qualities you were looking for in a guy.

           Hard working

With my list in my head and in my heart, I began the search.

When you’re 19 years old, finding a guy with all the traits of your 49 year old dad can be pretty hard to find. Can I get an Amen!

Here’s what I wish someone had told me: switch your focus. Focus on becoming the girl God wants you to be.

Put your time, effort and energy into developing who you are. Give your attention to cultivating love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control.

Focus on becoming the girl God wants you to become, a girl reaching her fullest potential in Christ, and let God take care of bringing a guy.

The girl who invests her time, energy, and emotions, not on a guy she doesn’t have, but on the One she does makes a move. She moves from obsessing over why she isn’t wanted to becoming the type of girl a guy would want. Not just as someone to date, but as the one he’d want to spend the rest of his life with. And that outcome is just a byproduct!

The true benefit is becoming a girl with confidence. The girl who grows more like Jesus grows to like herself more.


Today, share this graphic with your girl on her favorite social media: Instagram, Twitter, Facebook! Help her switch her focus.


Don’t miss the last Magnetic give away this week – A year’s worth of pedicures! Just the sound of it is terrific! Click here to enter or go to

Also, this is the last week to receive $50 in free resources for pre-ordering Magnetic. Click here for more information or go to!



Friday, September 5, 2014

I Want to Be Beautiful Like That



Tick. Tick. Tick. The waiting room clock drew my attention to the obvious: I wished we weren’t there. Me in the silence and she surrounded by machines. Yesterday, laughing in the coffee shop had been a happier day for my friend and me.

When I heard her voice coming down the hall, I was thrown off by her tone. Having just finished her testing, her voice was not that of a fearful woman facing the unknown. And as her face came into view, her expression was not the look of a woman filled with uncertainty. Her countenance radiated one thing: peace. Complete and utter peace.

As I drew near to offer my support, hope spilled through her words, “Before we go, please let me share with you the words Jesus has been whispering to me.”

Taking a seat in that hospital lounge, my friend knew just where to go in God’s word. She had been soaking her heart in the familiar passage all week. Pouring her faith into me, it was all I could do to hold back the tears. Wasn’t I there to support her? Yet, it was her words, filled with God’s words that were the life giving ones.

My friend was living out Psalm 119:165, “Great peace have those who love your law, and nothing can make them stumble.” (NIV)

There is something otherworldly being in the presence of one who has faced what we all may fear, touched God there and is no longer afraid of the pain this life might hold. I haven’t experienced looked at that level of fear before. I haven’t paid the price to grasp the peace she holds today. But I want it; want the peace she has. I want my heart to be ok with anything that comes my way because my heart is peacefully resting in a God I know is good.

No matter what.

Jesus says He will give us a peace that passes all understanding. I saw that peace, literally saw it with my eyes, in my gorgeous friend that morning. I witnessed the beauty that can only come when a woman is daily saturated in the word of God.

It’s a beauty so gorgeous it’s much more than a face in the mirror.

It’s a beauty I want.

I most likely will not experience the exact pain she has experienced. But I can still become beautiful like her.
I know what I have to do to get it; to be like my friend.

I become beautiful like my friend by practicing being in God’s presence as she does; learning to daily “love his law” as the Psalmist said. Getting alone, going to that place, every day, where His word gets in me and I get in God. Setting aside all else, so His peace can seep into all the places of my heart. Allowing His peace to wedge out all fear.

My friend isn’t beautiful because of her oh-so-cute hairstyle or her trendy outfit, though she has those too. My friend is lovely because she has found Jesus’ peace in spite of the pain. I want true beauty like that. The beauty of the fruit of the Spirit.

Galatians 5:22-23, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (NIV)

Jesus, this world tries to daily define beauty for us. Magazines and make-up ads constantly scream at us “more, more, more”. Your beauty, though, is a gentle peace, even when our world may be spinning. Lord, may we be desperate to become the women You long for us to be; women who radiate You to all we come in contact with. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.\


Know a young woman who longs to grow beautiful and live in the fullness of her God-given potential? If so, my new book Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants is a study based on the fruit of the Spirit listed in Galatians 5:22-23! For more information on free gifts for pre-ordering as well as this week’s give away of a $100 gift card from Proverbs 31 Ministries online store, just click here!





Wednesday, September 3, 2014

{Wednesday Wisdom Tip} – Her Fullest Potential



Growing up, youth pastors, parents, teachers, and coaches would encourage me to “go for it”, to reach my fullest potential. But as a 17 year old, just trying to make it through high school without messing up, “fullest potential” was vague and hard to wrap my brain around.

I did begin to believe, that God, the One who had created me, had a plan for my life; that I was made for more than college and a career. The verse our youth pastor had us memorize helped that belief to grow:

“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,” Ephesians 3:20 (NIV)

That belief, that when I partnered with God to obey and honor Him, helped to motivate me and the choices I made in the years that came. I wanted that “immeasurably more” than I could ask or imagine.

I wanted to reach my fullest potential.

Picture a gorgeous piece of fruit, a luscious and juicy Florida orange. The bright and plump skin calls “Peel me!” As you pull back the skin, juice squirts everywhere. This orange is just the kind Tropicana looks for!

Then there is another orange. Puny and shriveled. Something on the tree went terribly wrong. Bugs, disease, lack of sun? Whatever the reason, the orange never reached its full potential. Dried up, the ugly fruit is no use to anyone!

What caused the drastic difference between these two pieces of fruit? One so beautiful, the other so…not? The juicy orange, pleasingly healthy, drew in all it needed to reach its full potential. Sunshine, water, and nutrients from the soil nurtured the fruit into the fullness it was created for. The other orange did not absorb the nourishment it needed.

When we’re planted in God, we become like the tangy, appealing fruit! He provides all we need to reach our full potential—to be the best you you can be!

How beautiful!

Isn’t that what we want to be? Beautiful?

In the process of seeking Jesus’ heart, we become the amazing individual He designed us to be, a girl who is irresistibly magnetic, beautiful inside and out!

Think of the two pieces of fruit. Which one attracts your interest?

We want to teach our girls the same is true for guys. They are drawn to you when you are at your best, your greatest potential! So the you you become impacts who you’ll attract. If that guy you’re crushing on is mature and solid in his faith, he’ll be attracted to a girl who is mature and solid in her faith. Notice I didn’t say that the guy you’re crushing on is going to crush on you. I am saying the type of guy who will be drawn to you is someone who shares your priorities and passions. A guy who is like you is the guy who will like you.

                                                                                         Adapted from “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants” releasing September 16th! Order now for $50 in free resources!

To share with your girl, pick up a piece of fruit from the store. Wait awhile; let it shrivel. Then, using a luscious piece of fruit, share with her this truth!


Don’t miss this week’s Magnetic give away: $100 gift card to Proverbs 31 Ministries online store! Just think of all the great books and accessories you could get! Be sure to enter by clicking here! (If you are receiving this by email, be sure to head to and click on Magnetic.)




Monday, September 1, 2014

Celebrate You!



Labor Day.

A day to celebrate how hard we work. To take a break from all that pulls at us; not just Monday through Friday. Our weekends can sometimes be even busier.

Today, take a few moments; break out from your norm. Put all you have to do aside; just for today.

It may be taking a simple picnic to the park with those you love or you might celebrate this day with a nap. Whatever you do today, take some time to celebrate all you do, each and every day to take care of others.

Take some time and celebrate you!


Friday, August 29, 2014

Build Unshakable Confidence

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If you are joining me here today from my devotion Unshakeable Confidence with Proverbs 31 Ministries, welcome! I’d love to connect with you further through Facebook, TwitterInstagram,  and Pinterest at Lynn Cowell and by sharing with you my Wednesday Wisdom Tips which you can get by subscribing here!

Before we chat about unshakeable confidence, I want to invite you to my party!

I love parties…don’t you?

This party is to celebrate my new book release, Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants!

Over the next few weeks, we’ll be celebrating in all kinds of ways!

First, if you pre-order Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants I’m giving away over $50 worth of FREE downloadable resources:

His Revolutionary Love ebook

Devotions for a Revolutionary Year ebook

* My video message Confidence Comes Closer

Printable resource The Magnetic Manifesto

* Printable resource Magnetic Journaling pages

Click here for more details!

Also over the next month, I’m giving away one BIG giveaway every single week, along with a grand prize giveaway that runs the entire four weeks! You’ll want to enter to win each and every one of them (and tell your friends to enter too!)!

Head to the celebration and the place for you to sign up! Click here for the give away page! Then come back and we’ll talk about unshakeable confidence.

(If you are getting this via email, you must enter the give away by going to


Unshakeable Confidence 

From the time we were little girls, we’ve been told what to build our confidence on.

My attic proves it.

Do you have a box in your attic of old ribbons, trophies or certificates?  Working to organize our attic last fall, I discovered a box of mementos from my years as a young woman. As I took out each item out of the worn out box, they served as reminders of how we try to build our confidence on things we can loose, have taken from us or even never attain.

We’ve built our confidence on:

* How pretty we are

As a little girl, do you remember putting on your best for your first day of school or a special holiday and smiling for the camera? You probably didn’t ask for it, but there was a longing in your heart for someone to say, “You look pretty today!” Maybe it was your dad or that guy had never bothered to look your way.

One of the items I discovered in the tattered cardboard container was an aged advertisement. Cut from the yellow pages of my home town, my photographer had used my bridal portrait for their ad. I hate to admit it, but some weird part of me finally felt validated. I might not have ever gotten the attention of the popular guys at school, but my photographer thought I was pretty enough to put my picture in the yellow pages! I looked to a piece of paper to build my confidence on.

* How well we performed

The dusty engraving on the small trophy read “Lynn Martin, Choir Student of the Year”. At the end of my senior year, that trophy meant the world to me. My musical career had been filled with rejection and unlike my writing story, it never had a happy ending. Year after year, try out after try out, I missed the cut for the state honor choirs. Though it couldn’t possibly erase all the rejection I had experienced, the trophy served as a sort of balm on my musical heart. Years later, it serves a reminder to not build my confidence on something…like how well I can sing.

* How well liked we are 

 “Spring Banquet Queen”. There was no way I would have ever been elected for prom queen, let alone the court. But my youth group had said I was the “Spring Banquet Queen”. Really? We even had a popularity contest at church? Another reminder: never build my confidence on what others say about me.

One after another, my mementos reminded me of a truth God has engraved on my heart and is now my passion to pass on to women much younger than I:

Unshakeable confidence is not built on someone, something or someplace, but on our unshakeable God. 

I wonder how many tears would never have flowed, how many nights of rejection wouldn’t have never been wasted, had a woman shared this truth with me. I would like to believe I would have invested more time, more energy and more of my emotions in building my confidence on my God who would be building His life in me forever.

Who knows? Maybe I wouldn’t have listened. I just know that this truth has the power to change the trajectory of our lives now and the young women we have the opportunity to pour it into today.

Will you be that woman to a young girl?


Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Stuck on the Wrong One

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If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.”Jeremiah 29:13 (NLT)


“Lynn, you can’t give 100% of your heart to two people at once.”


I knew my counselor was right; I was stuck on the wrong one. My life revolved around my boyfriend, not around my relationship with God. I couldn’t say I was looking for God wholeheartedly; I couldn’t even say I was searching half-heartedly!


At 19 years old, the strong words from my counselor were not words I wanted to hear. For the first time in my life, I was in a serious relationship. My boyfriend had just given me a special ring to signify our future together. Now I was being challenged to live it apart.


Being wanted was what my heart had always wanted and I had finally found it. To be the one initiating a break up didn’t make sense to my young heart. But I also wanted to change. Wanted to truly follow after God with all of me. I wanted Him more than anything else, even if that included breaking up with my boyfriend.

Ever meet a girl who is completely ok with who she is? In fact, she actually likes herself! The more I turned my attention away from a guy and my self-absorbed self, the more I began to like me! I liked me because I was becoming the me He created me to be from my very beginning.


Soaking in His gentleness toward me, I found myself becoming more gentle with others.

Learning of His love, I became loving toward others. The more I became like Him, the more I liked me.


There is something charismatic; something magnetic about a girl who is happy with herself. That was the part I didn’t see coming.


Without a guy in my life, I had more time, energy and attention to devote to Jesus. I found myself looking for ways to get away and be with Him. As I did, I saw my confidence bloom as I was becoming more and more like the woman He created me to be.


Jesus promises us that as we seek Him above all else, He will give us everything we need…including confidence.

Does a young woman come to your mind that you want to find that confidence? The confidence that comes when we become less self-absorbed and more Jesus-absorbed?


My new book Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants might be the perfect book for her! Before it releases September 16th, I’m giving away over $50 worth of FREE downloadable resources!

Click here for more details!

I’m also giving away one BIG giveaway every single week, along with a grand prize giveaway that runs the entire four weeks! Today, we have a brand new give away! Click here for the give away page to learn more!



Friday, August 22, 2014

What Good Am I?

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Thanks for stopping by today! Before I’ll share my post “What Good Am I? , let me remind you of a party going on on my Magnetic book page!

Over the next few weeks, we’ll be celebrating the release of my new Magnetic, which takes places September 16th,  in all kinds of ways!

First, if you pre-order Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants I’m giving away over $50 worth of FREE downloadable resources:

His Revolutionary Love ebook

Devotions for a Revolutionary Year ebook

* My video message Confidence Comes Closer

Printable resource The Magnetic Manifesto

* Printable resource Magnetic Journaling pages

Click here for more details!

Also over the next month, I’m giving away one BIG giveaway every single week, along with a grand prize giveaway that runs the entire four weeks! You’ll want to enter to win each and every one of them (and tell your friends to enter too!)!

Let’s head to the celebration and the place for you to sign up! Click here for the give away page!

If you are getting this via email, you must enter the give away by going to


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What Good Am I?

“Why, when a woman walks in a room, do all the other women size her up?”


Where was the nearest rock? I desperately wanted to crawl under one. My husband had just pointed out what I have often seen but didn’t think others saw. Our insecurity tends to seep out in situations where we feel “less than”.


Greg’s comment that evening stirred inside of me a series of questions.


What holds us back from offering encouragement when we know most of us struggle with feelings of insecurity?


Why, when we have the power to help each other over come these feelings and do so much good for each other, do we not?


Why would I not, when I have a good thought about another, simply say it? Beautiful comments we think in our head stay in our head:


I noticed your kind act in the grocery store. You inspired me!


Your generous heart makes me want to be giving as well!


When I see the boldness of your faith, I’m encouraged to be bold as well.


The more I thought, the more I knew just how easy it could become if I would just start speaking good about others.


Solomon reinforced my thoughts as I read Proverbs 4:27, “Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them.” (NLT) s I read this verse My heart hearD, “Lynn, do not withhold saying good when you see good. When you speak good, you are doing My good.”


So, I’m starting a mantra: if I have a positive thought, I’m going to say it. It doesn’t matter if I know you or if you are a woman I’ve never met. With God’s help, I no long want to withhold good from those who deserve or those who need it, when it is in my power to help.


My prayer is that not only will I encourage others along the way, but my kids will see God’s goodness pouring through me and they too will be inspired to call out good in others as well. If we’ll join together and make sharing the good we see normal, we might just bring some really good change.


Jesus, I want to be a bringer of Your good to my world today; at the grocery store, when seeing my neighbor and as I go about my work.  Open my eyes to see good and then call it out and encourage another with the power of my words. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

My new book, Magnetic, is a study for girls based on the fruit of the Spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (NIV)


Why do you think we can tend to be quick to judge but not easily share the good we see?

What holds you back from sharing the good you see in others?