Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Your Life Still Counts

But what if my own story is a mess? 

This is a question moms often ask me after sharing my Wise Women Raising Wiser Daughters message. In this session, I encourage moms to share their stories with their daughters. Stories of their greatest moments…and their worst.

Because here is the thing:

Chances are your girl has already had some worst moments…you just don’t know about it. By you sharing with them the times when you got it right and the times you have not, you are opening the door for them to share back.

At the Magnetic Experience event just a couple of weeks ago, a mom shared with me that just that week her girl broke down and told her of some poor choices she had been making. After emptying her heart, she told her mom, “I knew I could tell you and you wouldn’t judge me.”

When we share with our girls the things we would want to change about our past, we can teach them Christ doesn’t want anyone living in the shadow of their past, but in the light of His future for them. While we don’t encourage them to make poor choices, we do want them to know God is bigger than their mess ups and our’s.

We can’t change the past but we can allow God’s truths to change our hearts, and in turn, change our future by embracing God’s promise that He will never waste our pain.

Maybe you’re thinking, but I’m still haunted by my past.

You are not alone! 

That is one reason I am so excited about my friend, Tracie Miles, new book Your Life Still Counts

Tracie has learned that God has a special plan and purpose for each of our lives – not despite our past, but because of it. Through her new book she shares the healing, hope, and peace found in Jesus Christ while inspiring women to look at their past experiences as a foundation for an amazing purpose God has in store for them.  Your Life Still Counts will help you:

  • Break free from the pain of your past by learning how God can mend your deepest hurts
  • Restore self confidence by embracing your value and worth in the eyes of Christ
  • Uncover your spiritual gifts and qualifications by exploring your past with a new perspective
  • Embrace life with new passion and purpose by discovering your life still matters to Christ
  • Be inspired to step out of your comfort zone and pursue the life of purpose God designed for you

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Today, I’m giving away a copy of Your Life Still CountsFor an opportunity to win, share below how you feel about being vulnerable with your girl or those in your small group. If you’re in a hurry, just say, “I’m in!”. I will announce both the winner from last Friday’s Teaching our Girls the Holidays Don’t Have to Be Harried Give Away and Your Life Still Counts this Friday!

Lynn

Friday, October 17, 2014

Teaching Our Girls the Holidays Don’t Have to Be Harried Plus a {Give Away}

The winner of Magnetic from Wednesday’s Wisdoms Tip: The Top Reason Your Daughter Shouldn’t Date in High School is Cindy H in Texas who posted at October 15, 2014 at 1:56 pm. Email me your full name and address Cindy and I’ll get it sent right out!

What was your home like during the holidays growing up?

Since I was number 7 of 8 kids, Thanksgiving and Christmas meant my older siblings came from afar bringing many, many nieces and nephews with them. I know there was no way of getting around it, but my mom didn’t do much celebrating. Literally day and night for days before, during and cleaning up afterward, she was buried under preparations for all those people living under our little roof for several days.

I guess I thought that is just the way it was supposed to be. Mom did the work; the family enjoyed her work.

Fortunately, the past few years, God has brought into my life some women, who believe investing in your family doesn’t mean you land in crazy land after January 1st. Learning from their que, I have so learned to curb back. Do a few things that are my family’s absolute favorites and let the rest fall away.

We can pass onto our girls:

The holidays are about people;

not projects or parties.

If the projects and parties are part of celebrating and investing in “our people” – great! Let’s do it! But if the projects and the parties are more about doing what we’re “supposed” to be doing and actually take us away from our people during the holiday season – let it go! Let’s focus on enjoying those we love not fixating on having it all.

My friends, Karen Ehman and Glynnis Whitwer are two of the people who have really pointed me in this new thinking. They have a fabulous free resource to help us get our priorities about our people in the place just before November hits!

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It is called 7 Days to a Hassle-Free Holiday

To sign up, simply enter your email address and for the next 7 days you will receive ideas and encouragement for taking the hassle-out of the holidays in your cleaning, decorating, cooking and baking, gift-giving, and traditions. You’ll also be given some great out-reach ideas to help your family focus on giving and serving rather than getting and “stuff”. And finally, as an added bonus, Karen and Glynnis share 25 easy and delicious recipes as a PDF that include:

  • Holiday get-together (or take on the road) dishes

  • DIY food gifts

  • Quick and easy dinners for those crazy-busy holiday-prepping days

  • Fun foods to make with kids

  • Retro Christmas cookies

(Don’t forget – these are ideas you can pick from, not a list to do!!)

CLICK HERE to sign up for the free resource 7 Days to a Hassle-Free Holiday.

And, please leave a comment telling us what most casues you hassle at the holidays. Karen and Glynnis will be giving away two copies of their book Everyday Confetti: Your Year-Round Guide for Celebrating Holidays and Special Occasions.

 

Lynn

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: The Top Reason Your Girl Should Put Off Dating In High School

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You don’t want to depress your girl, but she might need to know this.

I did a Google search (because you know everything on the internet is true, right?) and typed in:

 “At what age do guys mature?”

The answers might just bum them out a bit.

A National Institutes of Health study proposes that the part of the brain that restrains risky behavior, including reckless driving, and thinking skills is not fully developed until the age of 25.

That’s the brain. When it came to emotions, the top three posts all said 43! 43 years old is when the male brain is fully mature when it comes to emotions.

Maybe, like me, you’ve taught your girl: “Make your list of what you are looking for in a guy and don’t settle.” I’m not saying we shouldn’t teach this; we should. Here is the deal though: for guys to be the guys that matches up with her list, chances are they’re probably not in high school!

With that in mind, challenge your girl today to make a switch. To bravely make the switch from looking for the guy to becoming the girl.

Take this time. This amazing time in her life, to focus on becoming the girl. Becoming the girl who is reaching her fullest potential. The girl who is investing her time, energy and emotions becoming the best she can become; the best God created her to become.

Then, if and when God brings that mature godly guy into her life, she’ll be the mature godly girl too.

 

Copy this graphic today and text, Tweet or Instagram your girl today. Empower her to reach her fullest potential!

Today I’m giving away a personalized copy of Magnetic. 

Packed with honesty, encouragement and perspective-changing truth Magnetic  (available at AmazonB&NCBDeverywhere books are sold), empowers girls and young woman to reach their fullest potential by focusing on becoming who God made them to be! A girl who reflects God’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. A girl who will attract the right type of guy one day: one who loves God with all his heart and who will cherish her!

To enter to win, share in the comments below your thoughts on dating in high school. I’ll post today’s winner on Friday’s post: Teaching our Girls the Holidays Don’t Have to Be Harried. 

Today’s post is an excerpt from my message “Are You Brave Enough?” from the Magnetic Experience. If you are interested in learning more about hosting a Magnetic Experience in your community, just email me at Lynn@LynnCowell.com.

 

Winner from Friday’s post, The Push I Need, is Monica who posted at October 10, 2014 at 12:48 pm (Edit). Please email me at Lynn@LynnCowell.com your full name and address and we’ll get out to you Just Rise Up!  by Sarah F. Martin.

 

Lynn

Friday, October 10, 2014

The Push I Need

The winner of I Want God by Lisa Whittle from Wednesday’s post: When Our Daughters Will Want God is Amber M. who posted 2014/10/08 at 12:20 . Please send me your full name and address, Amber to Lynn@LynnCowell.com and I’ll get it right out. 

 

It’s been just what I’ve needed. Maybe you need it too? With all the investing we do as we women, we need other women to come along side us, pushing us to grow and reach our fullest potential. My friend, Sarah Martin has been doing for me that last couple of weeks. Sarah When I read this passage yesterday in Just Rise Up, I thought, “That is exactly what Magnetic is about!” “John 15 talks much about fruit. If sin separates us from Jesus, the flip side is that repentance and obedience (sticking close to Him) produces fruit in our lives, namely, the fruit of the Spirit that Paul wrote about in Galatians 5. When we step away from sin, redirect our course in repentance, and stay connected with the Lord, He promises love, joy, peace, patience, kindheartedness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Each of these molds our hearts to live more like Jesus. Each fruit adds depth to our personal character as we live out our faith and love for our King. When we “taste” this fruit daily and allow God to enrich it in our lives, we then see that fruit grow in more of an outward expression.

Those around us see the fruit and want some for themselves.

Our actions may even encourage them to examine their lives, repent, abide in Christ, and RISE UP! to pluck their own fruit off the tree, so to speak.” I want my girls to learn to keep their hearts soft and pliable before Jesus, free of sin so they can develop the fruit of the Spirit in their lives. I want that for me too!  This study has encouraged me to keep bowing my heart and life to Jesus each and every day, so I will become magnetic, attracting others to my King. Maybe you need a study to do the same? If so, join Sarah’s Online Bible Study coming up November 3rd. JustRiseUp

It is common to look at our faith as something that just “is”. It’s not strong, nor is it weak; it’s simply a part of us. But faith is something we desire to strengthen. It is a vital relationship with our Lord that should be nurtured, celebrated, and shouted from the rooftops as the most incredible gift we will ever receive.

Just RISE UP! is a call to do just that. This invigorating study motivates women to do life differently by making Jesus famous in all aspects of life. Many have the itch to make a difference with their lives but don’t know how. By living a life of praise, with a humble posture and a Kingdom perspective, women will step into their life purpose. With Just RISE UP! readers will evaluate their present stance before the Lord and become excited to RISE UP! and take their place in the Kingdom to make the name of Jesus renowned.

Features include:

  • Snippets of conversations with Sarah’s readers
  • Journaling prompts to help the reader dig deeper
  • Questions to facilitate dialogue

Today I am giving away a copy of “Just Rise Up!”. To enter to win, just comment below how you feel we can best stay “connected” to the Lord each day. If you’re in a hurry, simply comment. “I’m in!” I will announce the winner next week on my Wednesday Wisdom Tips.

 

PS  Sarah is sharing what she’s learning in Magnetic on her blog today and giving away a copy. I hope you stop by!

Lynn

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: When Our Daughters Will Want God

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I am so excited to have my friend, Lisa Whittle, the author of I Want God: Forever Changed by the Revivial of Your Soul, sharing with us today. We’re giving away a copy too!

 When Our Daughters Will Want God

Our girls are watching us.

We know this, and sometimes we cringe.  Because we know of our imperfections…our battle to love our body…our struggle to handle relationships well, read our Bibles and stay close to God.

We wonder: how can I be what she needs me to be and be who I need to be, too?

I know my daughter is watching me.  I see her mimicking my mannerisms without even being aware…following in my mommy footsteps.

She’s 9, and it’s the first time I’ve taken her with me when I speak, all the way in California.  She wears a Christmas dress from Target – maybe the cutest one I’ve ever seen – and sits in the crowd while I take the stage, hanging onto my every word.

(I know this, because afterward she tells me back one of my stories, only she sounds far cuter.)

And then, we fly home.  And I think the event is over.

But just days later, she starts doing something.  Without announcing she has a new name for me or exactly why she replaced my mommy one with this one in particular, she starts calling me, with dramatic flair, “woman of truth.”

I ask her to empty the dishwasher.  “Ok, woman of truth,” she grins and says back.

I ask her to please take the dog out…turn off the tv…clean up that incredibly messy room, and with all requests I am met with the same response – the “woman of truth” one.

I know…it’s just a name and she’s being a little silly.  I know…she’s not really thinking about what it means.  But I am reminded…with what I say and what I do…she’s there, watching.

And I know this very important thing: she needs me to back up what I say with my life.

I understand that if she could really verbalize what is going on in her mind it is likely something along the lines of: please be a woman of truth so your words match your life…and if I’m completely honest, it scares me to death.

I want to be a woman of truth.  I want to raise her to be a woman of truth, too.  But I know myself.  I know I may get in the way.  I know, because I am human, I may mess her up.  And I desperately don’t want to.

This phrase she has somehow taken to calling me has brought out all my mommy insecurities and reminded me, all at once, that in order for me to be a woman of truth, I’m going to really need God.

The truth is: we all really need God.  We need Him to help us be better than we are able, wise beyond our understanding, steady and discerning and grateful and a really good mom.

But it has to go beyond that.

In order for our girls to want God in that passionate way He wants, we are going to have to show them what that looks like.

* Saying yes when He asks us to do something hard, helping them learn to trust Him.

* Rising above our need to gain the approval of other people so they won’t waste their life away fighting to be popular.

* Integrating Him into every area of our life, not just relegating Him to Sunday visits so they understand how to make Him a part of their daily life.

And will we be perfect? No.

But can we be their greatest spiritual influence? Yes.

 

Because when our daughter’s see us wanting God more than anything else, they will know how to want Him in the same way, too.

 

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Today, I’m giving away a copy of I Want God: Forever Changed by the Revivial of Your Soul. Please share one way you think we can show our girls we want God. Just leave a comment below and I will announce the winner this Friday!

 

To read more about I Want God, click here.

To connect with Lisa, visit www.LisaWhittle.com.

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Lynn

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Know the Effects of Selfie Trends on Our Kids

 

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The winner from yesterday’s post, Helping You Put on Your Best Outfit, of the of the Magnetic book and bracelet, is Patricia B who posted at 5:05 p.m. at 9/30/2014. Congratulations, Patricia! 

 

We’ve seen our kids take them and we take them too!

The selfie…

They seem so fun and innocent…and I am sure most of the time they are. But my research this weekend revealed something we might not have expected.

According to a new study by the American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery (AAFPRS), the rise of ‘selfies’ is having a huge impact in the facial plastic surgery industry. Here’s some scary statistics we should be concerned about:

* 1 in 3 surgeons saw an increase due to patients being more self aware of looks in social media.

* 13% of doctors surveyed identified patients’ dissatisfaction with their own image on social media sites as a rising trend in practice.

* 10% – the increase in rhinoplasty in 2013 over 2012

“Social platforms like Instagram, Snapchat and the iPhone app Selfie.im, which are solely image based, force patients to hold a microscope up to their own image and often look at it with a more self-critical eye than ever before,” says Edward Farrior, MD, President of the American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery. “These images are often the first impressions young people put out there to prospective friends, romantic interests and employers and our patients want to put their best face forward.” – “Selfie Trend Increases Demands for Facial Plastic Surgery” 

It’s important for us to be aware of this growing trend and respond to it.

First, let’s be mindful to be positive about our own body image. Seemingly small comments about our size and shape are soaking in to the hearts and minds of our kids. They are listening to the comments we make – good and bad.

Next, being over focused on their appearance is having long term effects on our children’s self-esteem.  Let’s open up dialogue with our kids and draw this topic of self-awareness and body image out in the open. Ask questions about how they view themselves and help them embrace the beauty God has given each and every one of them! Try memorizing scripture together and holding each other accountable for the words you use to describe your bodies.

Lynn

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

A {Give Away Day}Helping You Put on Your Best Outfit

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If you are joining me here today from my Proverbs 31 Ministries Devotion “Letting Love Be My Go-To Outfit” welcome!

I’d love to connect with you further through Facebook, TwitterInstagram,  and Pinterest at Lynn Cowell and by sharing with you my Wednesday Wisdom Tips which you can get by subscribing here!

When I’m packing to go to a speaking event or a family special occasion, I search my closet carefully, looking for the best outfit I have. I bypass my hole-covered jeans, my dirty hiking boots and worn out sweatshirt, even though they are what I am most comfortable in. Instead of picking what is easiest, I purposefully make a decision and choose what fits the occasion and is most attractive.

I so want to do the same each day in my life. Slowing down. Not slipping “on” irritation, annoyance, or impatience. I want to be purposeful, in each situation I find myself in, to choose love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control. Those traits that are not only beautiful in the sight of my Jesus, but are attractive to others too.

I know I don’t have you tell you, this is really hard. Our heart and mind easily gravitate what comes naturally. It takes so much more effort and self-control to not say and do what’s “natural”.

 

I’m trying to teach my daughters to do the same. To not let everything that comes into their head come out of their mouth. All too often those thoughts don’t honor God, nor do they help us become the woman we want to be.

We must carefully choose the words we say, the attitudes we have and the actions we take. Each day, in every situation, we’ve got one shot to make the right decision. And we can do that when we rely on the Holy Spirit, seeking Him and allowing His power and traits to flow through us. One choice at a time…we’re becoming the women He wants.

One thing that can help us in these situations we find ourselves in are visual reminders. At my events, I share with girls magnets they can put in their lockers at school: Gorgeous is more than a face in the mirror. Gorgeous is also a condition of the heart, love shown through my actions.

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To help you and a young girl in your life put on love, today I’m giving away the Magnetic bracelet as another visual reminder for us to become the “girl” He wants; one who displays the fruit of the Spirit each day.

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Created by our ministry partner, Fashion & Compassion, the Magnetic bracelet  was designed by my daughter, Madi and I as acompanion to go with Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants at our A Magnetic Experience. 

A stunning hammered brass button featuring “Magnetic Gal. 5:22-23″ handmade by a group of vulnerable women in Mexico is the centerpiece of this trendy, wrap-style bracelet. Semi-precious gemstone beads have been hand-strung between genuine dark brown leather cord by women overcoming hardship & exploitation in Charlotte, NC. A portion of the proceeds organizations service exploited & abused women & children. Two adjustable closures measuring 14″ and 15″ in length. A tag with the product story, autographed by the artisan, is attached to the bracelet.

 Today, I’m giving away the Magnetic bracelet and the companion book, Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants to one blessed girl. To enter for the opportunity to win, share with me in the comments below a girl you know who displays the fruit of the Spirit or one you are investing in who you hope will develop these traits. (I’m so sorry…you must share in the comments section of my blog; emailed entries will not count. If you are receiving this post via email, please click here to head over to my site.)

I’ll announce the winner on my Wednesday Wisdom Tip tomorrow!

 

 

Lynn

Sunday, September 28, 2014

{Give Away} Win Tickets to “A Magnetic Experience”!

We want YOU to join us at A Magnetic Experience

and you can win your tickets!

 

Yes, now, you can WIN your way to A Magnetic Experience!

**Grand Prize Winner** (2): GIRLS NIGHT OUT! You and 2 of your BFFs will receive free passes to A Magnetic Experience Event & head over to Ben & Jerry’s ice cream after Friday night’s activities (your ticket purchase will be refunded to you, and additional ticket provided)

**1st Place Winner** (2): 2 Free Passes to A Magnetic Experience Event (your ticket purchase will be refunded to you, and additional ticket provided)

**2nd Place Winners** (5): Personalized signed copies of Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants

What is A Magnetic Experience all about?

{Sorry, adults, you have to sit this one out but we need your help: please share this with the girls you love!}

A Magnetic Experience is not for the adults, only for you.

This event created by girls for girls includes:

 Fashion {done the right way!}: With a show & make-up consulting too!

 Jewelry making, photo-booth fun, & artistic expression painting

 Pizza {ifyou register early!}

 A cause you’ll believe in - Fashion & Compassion {helping women living in poverty by creating & selling home-made goods/jewelry}
ALL proceeds go toward changing lives of women around the world!

 You’ll hear from the boys: what do they find attractive?

{are you ready to hear the God-honest truth?}

~Oh and yes, there will be only ONE speaking session by me {are you BRAVE enough?}

Don’t miss this incredible experience.

Can’t come? Please forward this email to someone who might!

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A Magnetic Experience Giveaway

Lynn

Saturday, September 27, 2014

It’s Time to Do Some Yelling

You and I have had this dialogue before.

We get tired of praying the same prayers.

We’ve made our prayer journals. Together, we’ve prayed for our kids. But some days, when we don’t see the progress we’re looking for in those we love, praying can be down right discouraging!

Maybe it’s time to start yelling for your girl. 

You might be very familiar with Jeremiah 29:12 (the new study I’m doing Just RISE UP! directed me there this morning). I decided to dig in instead of rolling over it this verse I’ve read many times.

Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.” Jeremiah 29:12 (NIV) 

I find it way to easy to skim over verses I have heard over and over and over again. Do you struggle with the same? My Hebrew-Greek study Bible helps me get past this complacency I easily fall into. I began to see just how God defines “call”…and I was surprised.

When I think of the word call, I think of the action I take when telling Madi it’s time for dinner. Depending on the level of her music at the time, I’ll choose to simply raise my voice a bit…or truly yell if needed.

In the original language this part of the Bible was written in, call can mean: to cry out; to name; to proclaim, pronounce, preach. “Essentially denotes the enunciation of a specific message which is usually addressed to a specific recipient and intended to elicit a specific response.”

Here’s where I was surprised to find what the Bible was telling me to do to God: yell at God. My Bible says:  “The term signifies shouting, calling loudly, in order to get someone’s attention to initiate contact. Sometimes it indicates sustained calling.”  Yep – yell.

This verse starts out “Then you will call…”

Then? When?

In the verses prior, God is talking about rescuing His people from the captivity of the Babylonians. Some of us definitely have our kids caught in the enemy’s captivity. We need God to plan and execute a rescue.

I want and need God to hear me and move, to perform the plans for me and my family for good, to give us a hope and a future, to reach our fullest potential in Him as He mentions in verse 11. According to this definition of “call” in Jeremiah 29:12, these plans are set into motion when I call. When I cry out, preach, shout loudly for a long time to God. When I pray which means to plead, on the behalf of someone else, He will listen. He will hear, giving His undivided attention and understand my need.

And He will deliver.

It sounds to me that desperate needs require desperate prayers. Prayers that involve some shouting, yelling and calling out to God.

There…you’ve been given permission, actually encouraged, to go on and doing some yelling today, friend!

 

Need some help knowing what to “yell”? Here are some prayer prompts you can shout to God for your girl to become the girl He wants; a girl living out her fullest potential in Him! Just click here for this free download.

 

Lynn

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Kim Kardashian: Hollywood – What Is Your Girl Playing?

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Last month, Kim Kardashian: Hollywood, became the hottest free-to download mobile app for Android and iOS .

From new outfits to parties and endorsements, our girls can now “live the life” right through their devices. Which gives me reason to be concerned.

Why? you’re thinking. We grew up playing Barbies or pretending to date Scott Baio. Fantasy didn’t harm us. (Ok, maybe that part was just me)

This game takes imagination to a different level.

For starters, the entire plot of the game is based on buying expensive outfits, nights out and estates. Players can choose their sexuality: straight or not. Not to mention, in order to “get ahead” this free game becomes another place for young people to “spend” money, real money, to get what they want in their fantasy world – a social or romantic life, dreamy wardrobe, and getting rich quick.

For many, this game becomes highly addictive. According to psychologist Simon Moore, part of a psychological insights consultant group, what allures players to spend money on this game is the graphics. 

“Psychologically we are predominantly visual creatures,” Moore told Yahoo Tech. “We are in fact predators — our eyes are on the front of our faces — as a result, our brain gives a lot of attention to visual stimuli.” According to Moore, the rounded-out avatars are meant to max out our sensors. “The exaggerated make and shake of the female body: large eyes, amazing hair, are all things designed to be attractive and engaging visually.”

Screenshot of Kim Kardashian: Hollywood

Check out my amazing hair flip. 

Kim Kardashian: Hollywood is one more message sending the wrong message. True beauty is not found in the right outfit, hair flip or shoes. Beauty, which draws others to us and opens doors for us to share the Giver of Beauty, comes when we invest our time, energy, emotions and yes, money, in becoming more like Jesus.

Open up a dialogue today with the girls in your life by simply asking: Why do you think this game is so popular? Invest in listening to your girl. You might find she sees right through the messages this game is sending. If not, this might be just the open door you’re looking for.

Needing a copy of Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants? Renee Swope is giving away 3 copies on her post Got a Girl You Love?. Stop by!

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Lynn