Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Help Her Develop Confidence

To help our child gain confidence, we have to help them discover Perfect Love.

 

I’m guessing that like me, you’ve seen your girl have to be confident – or not be confident – sometime in the past couple of weeks. Heading back to school has a way of pulling on our kids.

 

If we’ve seen our kids lacking confidence, how can we help them to develop this trait that they will need for the rest of their lives?

 

Confidence in a girl’s life comes from knowing she is loved. It begins in a young girl when she knows she is loved unconditionally in her home. Her parents listen to her feelings, allow her to be heard and provide security. As she grows, in fact as soon as she can read, it is time to begin to teach her, that yes, your family is here to love you, but it is most important to turn to Unlimited Love every day. Teach her to read God’s word; fill her heart. Teach her to base her value – her worth – not on the new one at school crushing on her in class or if the girls invite her to their party, but on Perfect Love.

 

Culture teaches “Girl Power”. “You can be anything you want to be.” “Go out there and get it.” In 2003, the diamond industry started a marketing promotion “Women of the World, Raise Your Right Hand”; a diamond on your right hand showing your success on your own! There is one problem: when our girls base their confidence on accomplishments, success or boys…these are all things that they can loose. Confidence boosters that may or may not be permanent.

 

We must teach them to base their confidence on the one thing that cannot be taken from them: the love of Jesus. Early, teach her to base her value – her worth – not on the little boy crushing on her in her class, if the girls invite her to their party, the trophy she got in the tournament this weekend or that straight A report card, but on Perfect Love.

 

“For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height…to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end, Amen.” ~ Ephesians 3:14-21

 

Lynn

Monday, August 24, 2015

Is Your Child on Something?

Is Your Child on Something?

 

She looks different to you.

Her eyes are glassy. Or is that a twinkle?

Giggling, she can’t keep quiet. Gushing all of the great things about him, all conversations now lead to this one subject. If she were back in her light up shoes, the strobe light would be blinding as she twitters around the room.

It’s like she’s on something.

And she is.

Join me over at The M.O.M. Initiative by clicking here.

Lynn

Wednesday, August 19, 2015

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Starting the Day Right

Starting our Day Right -

Back-to-school.

Many of us are experiencing it, but in so many different ways.

Some are preparing their lessons to homeschool. Others are shopping for the supplies on the public school list. The private school is hosting their ice cream social. And a few of you like me are dorm shopping and moving your kids to their school.

No matter what back-to-school looks like, we can all do one thing to help our kids prepare for their school days.

Teach them to start their day right.

When I stopped homeschooling my kids (my son was a middle schooler and my daughters in elementary), my heart started to ache because I no longer had the free time to teach them Jesus’ truths like I once did. For a least a year I simmered, thinking that was just the way it was.

Then I got the idea for what I called “Breakfast and the Bible”. I had my kids all come to breakfast at the same time, even though they left for school at different times. It only lasted 10 minutes, but these moments together allowed us to connect with each other and with Jesus before the rush of the day. When they were really small, I read them devotions. When my girls were in middle and high school, I wrote “Devotions for a Revolutionary Year” for us to use.

This school year, my kids will begin their day at three different colleges, but I am still encouraging them to start their day in God’s word using Proverbs 31 Ministries First5 app. This new app is actually an alarm clock on their phones. All they need to do is set their alarms each day in the app. Then, when their phone goes off in the morning, there is God’s word. First thing. They can simply lay in bed for a couple of minutes and start their day with Jesus in His Word.

Although I have taught my kids the power of opening God’s word for themselves each and every day, we all know this is a hard disciple to create. With the First 5 app, it couldn’t be any easier.

Even better, we can talk about the content together because we can each be reading the same thing each day.

Give it a try – Breakfast & the Bible. Gather your tribe a few minutes earlier than last school year or share the app together. It’s a beautiful way to grow closer to God and closer to each other!

 

Lynn

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Guy + Girl = ?

Culture says "Guy + Girl = Valuable". Jesus tells us different.

 

See, here is the problem. If our kids believe the songs on the radio and the movies on the screen, that there is a “soul mate” out there; someone they were meant to be with, they will do anything to find, attract and keep that “someone”.

 

Anything.

 

I once heard Andy Stanley create this scenario. Say our girl finds “him” and he finds “her”. They know they were made for each other; so they get married. (I am a firm believer in marriage! Been married over 28 years!) Time passes. Life happens. Kids come. Careers create pressure and their marriage falls from hot and to routine. Then, one day at work, a new someone pays attention to your girl. She listens to his kind words; his sympathy toward her situation. Next thing you know, she “knows” he’s the one! She missed it the first time! This guy is really her soul mate! So, she leaves her husband, her kids, her life to start a new one with the one. This relationship is hot and wonderful. Then…life happens. Kids come. Careers create pressure and their marriage becomes … boring. Then, one day at work, a new one pays attention to her. She listens to his kind words; his sympathy toward her situation.

 

Do you see the problem in thinking there is the “one” out there? When life gets hard and the fire wanes a bit or a lot, what empowers our girl to stick in her marriage? To love her child? To honor her vows and her God? What will be her “why” when she is confused?

 

Her why is The One; Jesus. When He fills our children’s hearts, they will not depend on a person to do what only Jesus can. Not that others cannot bring joy to our hearts; companionship and love are gifts from God! He intended for us to enjoy and be loved by each other, but we were not created to have our hearts filled by each other. That is Christ’s place.

 

How do we teach this? It start with us, moms! We have to find Jesus as the filler of our love gap. We have to go to Him each and every day to get everything we need – attention, affirmation and approval. We allow our kids to see us receiving joy in our lives from Him. When our girl sees us do this, they will know what it looks like; they will see what to emulate.

 

Knowing Jesus is the filler of our love gap makes a huge difference when it comes time for our kids to make choices in regards to relationships. Because they do not need that person to fill their empty heart, to give them confidence, to make them feel beautiful, they do not have make choices to go against God’s best for them. They don’t have to do whatever it takes to keep the relationship because they do not need this boyfriend or girlfriend to complete them; make them valuable! This society teaches, Guy + Girl = Valuable. It is a lie! God + Girl = a perfect match!

Finding Jesus to be the filler of my love gap made all the difference!

Looking for a resource to empower your girl to fill her heart with unconditional love? His Revolutionary Love: Jesus’ Radical Pursuit of You does just that. Learn more here

 

 

Lynn

Saturday, August 15, 2015

No Mom-of-the-Year Awards for Me

You are Love, Accepted & Complete

 

Today, my special guest blogger is Jennifer Rothschild, nationally known author and speaker who has written 11 books, including the bestsellers Lessons I Learned in the Dark, Self Talk-Soul Talk and her latest release, Invisible: How You Feel Is Not Who You Are.  

She’s been featured on Good Morning America, The Dr. Phil Show, The Learning Channel, Women of Faith and Extraordinary Women.  She is the founder of Fresh Grounded Faith events and womensministry.net.  She and her husband, whom she affectionately calls “her very own Dr. Phil,” have 2 sons and a lovely daughter-in-law.  Jennifer is a CS Lewis junkie who enjoys strong coffee, dark chocolate, great conversation, international travel and audiobooks. Jennifer became blind at age fifteen and now helps others live beyond limits. Learn more at www.JenniferRothschild.com

Here’s Jennifer:

 

“Okay, here’s an honest question for you:

Have you ever felt swallowed up in the dailiness of your life—doing the same old chores and tasks over and over and over again?

I sure have. I think we all have.

When I was a young mom, I remember one particular night when Clayton was 13 years old and about as emotionally exhausting as a child could be. “Why can’t I… ” or “How come everyone else is allowed to… ” and “That isn’t fair!” were the phrases I was combating all day long. And I mean A-L-L day long!

At the same time, I had three-year-old Connor, who was physically exhausting—busy, active, and loud! One of his favorite things to do was pull all the pots and pans from the cabinet and bang on them with wooden spoons. So while Clayton was draining my brain, Connor was wearing me out!

That night, to escape the constant interrogation from budding lawyer Clayton and the banging and clanging of little drummer Connor, I escaped into my closet and shut the door. I tried to ease my tension by doing some Lamaze breathing—you think that is only for the pain of childbirth? Sister, you need that for the pain of child rearing!
After a few deep breaths, I thought I could face them again without screaming or crying. I don’t mean their screaming or crying—I mean mine! What I really wanted to do was run away from home!

When the drumming ended, I heard Connor asking Clayton, “Where’s Mommy?”

“I dunno,” Clayton grunted.

Evidently, though, they discussed this enough to send out a search party. I heard them calling, but I didn’t answer. I heard them opening and closing doors, but I stayed hidden behind mine.

I soon heard them coming down the hall, knocking on my bedroom door, calling, “Mom! Mommy! ”

I must admit I will win no Mom-of-the-Year awards for what I’m about to tell you.

I ignored them.

I so wanted to disappear that I didn’t answer them. I thought, I’ve had it. They’ll be fine. Clay can take care of Connor for just a little while. Heck, he can raise him.

Then I heard Connor ask, “Can I have a Capri Sun?”

“Sure! Go get one,” Clayton replied.

Well, that’s all it took. There was no way my three-year-old was going to open one of those exploding juice grenades all by himself    I bolted out of the closet and into the kitchen.
Now, wouldn’t you think that someone at that point would have asked, “Where were you?” Nope! Connor just asked for some cookies, and Clayton launched into a closing argument about why he was innocent of the juice that was splattered all over the kitchen!

I know I’m not alone here, right? Every woman has had those moments when she gets familiarity fatigue.

You would think the familiar would be a reassuring place, but sometimes we can feel stuck in the familiar.

It just doesn’t seem right that something as amazing as motherhood could ever get old. But when the dailiness of motherhood – the serving, the disciplining, the running around – overwhelms us and feels all too familiar, we can lose sight of those moments of joy and how amazing it really is.

And, it’s the same thing with the reality that we are God’s beloved. We are loved by our God, sister. He sees us; He sees you. (Even when you’re hiding in a closet!)

When the dailiness of life overwhelms you, you can overlook the truth that you are His workmanship. You are the apple of His Eye. Your name is etched in the palm of His hand. You are loved with an everlasting love.

When something becomes familiar, it can be overlooked. You’ve heard it over and over—God loves you and you matter to Him. Maybe you’ve seen in the Bible that you are the apple of His Eye! But, it’s all too easy to get so used to those truths about us that we can forget that we are the loved, accepted and complete daughters of God Himself! We can start to feel stuck, when actually, the truth about who we are sets us free!

Now, that makes me want to bang some pots and pans and lift my Capri Sun in a toast to you and all those beautiful truths about us that I don’t ever want to overlook!

Sister, let me leave you with this question. What truth about you is so familiar that you are prone to overlook it? Carefully consider this question, and join me in this prayer:

Lord, interrupt my routine today. I can get so distracted and can lose sight of how radical your love for me is. Remind me of your truths and keep them fresh on my heart.”

Invisible

Jennifer Rothschild’s new book, Invisible: How You Feel is Not Who You Are is now available! If you order this week, you’ll receive several free gifts as Jennifer’s way to say thank you! Go to theInvisibleBook.org to learn more and grab your copy.

Today, Jennifer is giving away 3 copies of her new book Invisible. For a chance to win one of these copies, just share how or when you have felt invisible. If you’re in a hurry, just say, “I’m in!”

Lynn

Friday, August 14, 2015

No Longer Begging …

the Righteous One who says we are significant.

 

If you’re joining me here today from Proverbs 31 Ministries’ Encouragement for Today, welcome! If you haven’t had a chance to read Let’s Stop Begging for Acceptance, please take a moment to read this devotion by clicking here.

Maybe you’ve stopped by because of a social media link. I’d love to connect with you more on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Google+ and Pinterest. 

 

In my opening story, I share the war in my mind while watching a half-time show at a professional basketball game. The thoughts whirling through my mind really took me by surprise, but they shouldn’t have.

Our image-driven culture easily pulls us into the damaging battle of comparison. Obsession with external, physical beauty shouts at us day after day through ads, TV and social media; telling us what acceptable looks like. Maybe you are aware of the affect these messages have on you personally. You know the pressure you put on yourself to see the right number on the scale, become the right size or find the right outfit each day.

Unknowingly, we can transfer this pressure onto our kids, wanting them to be what society says is acceptable. Our motivations may be right; we don’t want them excluded or made fun of.

As parents, let’s set our sights higher. Let’s be intentional to pour this truth into their hearts: they are already have acceptance, approval and affirmation.

I’d like to come alongside you as invest in the lives of the young people around you.

First, I’d like to help you bring a You’re More than Enough conference to your community. Let me share with you more:

You’re More Than Enough

{a full conference or single session message}

You see it; the undercurrent of culture threatening to pull her under. As her mentor or mom, you also see something she is missing: the full potential laying just under the surface of all her trying.

It’s time to help her break out of the suffocation of trying and move to becoming who she was created to be. She is more than she knows! 

Together we’ll:

  • Discover what a personal & growing relationship with Jesus looks like (and why she should want one).
  • Learn how to block out all the noise to hear the voice of God.
  • Develop and stick to boundaries so she can reach her fullest potential.
  • Create confidence leading to higher self-esteem by discovering the love she craves.

Sessions can include:

  • You’re Brave Enough
  • Becoming a World-Changer
  • Beyond Snap-Chat: Finding Life-long Friends

 

Based on her availability, my 18-year-old daughter, Madi and I can also do a Q&A time during the conference. 

If you would like to receive my FREE event planning manual or get more information on hosting an event, just email me at lynnettecowell@gmail.com.

 

Second, I’ve created all sorts of free resources just for you as you invest in your girl. These free resources can be used alone or help to take the truths found in my book studies even deeper. To get your free resources, just click here. To learn more about my book resources, click here.

 

It is my desire to come alongside you, friend, as you are intentional to help the young women in your life reach their full potential. Be sure to sign up to receive my free Wednesday Wisdom Tips as together we become wise women and even wiser daughters!

 

Lynn

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Break My Finger

 

Choose to Be Broken

Wise Women … Wiser Daughters

Sometimes, I think my tagline should read something like, “Messed-Up Mom Helping Other Moms Not Mess Up” or something like that. That’s what this place is about. A mom and her kids telling their stories of where they have messed up and sharing their dirt. (Occasionally we share where we have gotten it right, too!)

Today is one of those “I messed up” days.

When my kids were younger, I regularly pointed out the flaws in relationships. Ugly, I know. Beyond ugly, as I look back, it is down right humiliating. I felt that if I helped my kids to see the ways other relationships failed or what blemishes to look for in others, it would help them choose the right spouse one day.

I was not teaching them what to look for in a potential spouse. What I demonstrated and taught was how to be a flaw finder.

I was, and still can be, way too much like the religious leaders who brought the woman caught in adultery before Jesus in John 8. I have “made her stand before the group” and pointed the finger. I taught and demonstrated the perfect way to judge other people, somehow thinking in my messed up mind, I was teaching my children to be wise and avoid going down the path of destructive relationships.

How could I have messed up so bad? In reading God’s word regularly, how did I miss Jesus’ example?

Jesus lived out humility. John 8:2 tells us, ” … He sat down to teach them.” This is the posture Jesus was in when the Pharisees and religious people drug the adulterous woman to Him in this chapter. Even His bodily posture demonstrated humility.

The Son of God showed humility while the religious people revealed pride, self-righteousness and judgement.

Not only did He shine humility, He radiated love. Jesus protected the woman from the stone throwers. Because of His wise words, the religious put down their stones. His words caused them to look at what was in their hands and the words of condescension flowing from their mouths and think again.

The religious, and I have to put myself in this category today, didn’t care about the broken. They cared about being right.

There is no love in being right.  Oh how we need to learn this, friend! Jesus said He is love. If I want to be like Him, and I so want that, I’m the one who needs to be broken.

Jesus never turns away when I’m broken, only when I refuse to be broken. 

In the miraculous way that only a perfect Savior could do, in spite of me, Jesus has created in the hearts of my three kids people who love people. Seeing beyond the external brokenness of others to see the potential the Creator has placed in all of His creation.  I so want to be like my kids; one who sees beyond what I can see with my eyes and see the person God intended them to become.

Lord, break my pointing finger. Open my eyes to see how You see; see what You see. Break my heart to love like you love. Empower me today to reach out to those who are hurting and bring Your healing love. Amen

 

Lynn

Monday, August 10, 2015

Monday with Madi: Depression Series – Week 3

When you are questioning whether you’re loved, whether you can keep going, or whatever you are struggling with pushing through today - tell yourself these things. If God sent His only son to redeem us, He can also restore your soul.

 

More Than Conquerors

 

Last week we talked about when struggling with depression, how we can better tackle the situations in our lives that pull us down even more.

 

For my final week on this series about depression, let’s keep it extra positive.

In a society that can make you feel like your struggles are impossible, let me tell you differently. I want to encourage you today that along with tackling depression and pushing through it, you can be the one that comes out on top as well. With joy in your heart and a mind that is not only ready to take on a new day, but is willing.

I know this sounds nearly impossible.

When my depression was at its worst, I told my mom I would never know what it was like to be joyful again, or love again. When we are in those insanely dark places, we hear nothing but lies. When situations like this now occur, I am reminded of Romans 8:31 which says; “If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all – how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?”

This verse says it all. When you are questioning whether you’re loved, whether you can keep going, or whatever you’re struggling with today – tell yourself this: if God sent His only son to redeem us, He can also restore your soul.

Many of us have some bad scar tissue, but Jesus chose to love us, already knowing the baggage we would all be carrying. He wants to show us immense beauty through the pain we have experienced. Jesus is the ultimate example of that. He died a brutal death on the cross for each and every one of us.

Although the beginning of Jesus’ story may be heart breaking and ugly,

the ending is where the true revolution was revealed.

     The same is true with us. God is waiting to show you how you can rejoice even with a wounded heart.

Will you let Him? Will you allow Him into your heart during your darkest hour to show you He isn’t finished yet, and that the world hasn’t won? Your beautiful journey is only the beginning and your story can become more encouraging as life goes on. Yes, life is going to have its painful moments, but as hard as it is to believe it, God is still there ready to help you prevail. Romans 8:37-39 says, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Not only does He say we are conquerors, but He says we are even more than that. Not only does He help us conqueror, He continues to move through us after it is all said and done. Nothing can separate us from the love He is waiting to show us if we allow Him to.

When we are fighting through a battle, it is the hardest to have faith that God has got you no matter where you fall. It’s ironic because those are the exact times we need Him more than anything. Don’t be afraid to release your fears. Sometimes, what hurts us the most are the things we struggle with letting go of. We wrestle with letting go because they are familiar and comfortable. Don’t be frightened to exchange your pain today for joy, even if you don’t feel that joy right this moment.

Today’s post was simply to encourage someone that there is still hope; you can still have joy. I’ll leave us on this note: Psalms 30:11-12, “You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing. You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy that I might sing praises to you and not be silent. O Lord my God, I will give you thanks forever!”

 

The winner of Wendy Blight’s book “Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner” is  Melissa Kiker who posted on August 8, 2015 at 11:49 pm. Please email me your address, Melissa, and I’ll get it right out to you. Congratulations!

Lynn

Friday, August 7, 2015

A Must Have Conversation Before Your Girl Heads Back to School

“How I wish someone had shared with me what I’m about to share with you. If they had, perhaps the events of June 7, 1987 would have ended very differently.”

 

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I’ve asked my friend and fellow Proverbs 31 Ministries team member Wendy Blight to share today her journey of healing from sexual assault…from victim to victor! To read the post, click here. For a free chapter from her book, Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner, sharing her story, click here.

Here’s Wendy:

“A few years ago, Oprah Radio invited me to Chicago to share my story and the facts, statistics and practical lessons I learned from my experience. I’m sharing that same information with you today. I write this NOT to instill fear but to inform and educate. I invite you to read through to the end…inform and educate yourself… and share it with your friends.

I want to share with you…

  • The facts
  • The effects
  • Ways to prevent becoming a victim
  • What to do if it happens to you

The Facts

  • Did you know that 1 out of 4 college women are sexually assaulted every year?
  • Did you know that 1 out of 6 women some time during their lifetime will be the victim of sexual assault?
  • Did you know that approximately 60 percent of sexual assaults go unreported every year? And 97 percent of rapists will never spend a day in jail.

The Effects

Victims of sexual assault are:

  • 3 times more likely to suffer from depression.
  • 6 times more likely to suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder.
  • 13 times more likely to abuse alcohol.
  • 26 times more likely to abuse drugs.
  • 4 times more likely to contemplate suicide.

(Statistics taken from RAINN )

For help, contact 1-800-656-HOPE

Ways to Prevent Becoming a Victim

Monday I shared spiritual lessons I’ve learned through my journey of healing. But I have also gained practical wisdom and want to pass it on to you to keep you S.A.F.E and protect you and those you love from being a victim.

Sexual assault Is A Crime Of Opportunity!!! What do I mean by that? Rarely is a woman assaulted by a stalker. A perpetrator selects his victim because, by her unintentional actions, she has made herself an easy target. By following a few simple steps, you can avoid being an easy target. I learned some of these first hand. Please share them with all the women you know!

S – Avoid Compromising Situations

When you go out….

  • never leave your drink unattended (alcoholic and non-alcoholic)
  • never accept a drink from a stranger and accept drinks only when you see the bartender pour it and hand it directly to you
  • never leave the keys to your home with anyone (valet, service station, car wash)
  • never be alone with someone you do not know
  • always be sure a friend or family member knows who you are with and where you are going

A – Be Aware of Your Surroundings

  • know where you are at all times
  • know what is going on around you
  • know who is around you
  • never have conversations within range of a stranger that reveal you will be home alone, closing a business alone, traveling alone, etc.

F – Go With Your Feelings

  • if your intuition tells you something is not right, pay attention and respond (chills down your spine, hair stands on end)
  • flee if you feel uneasy or uncomfortable
  • call 911 if you sense danger
  • never ignore your feelings because they may save your life

E – Don’t Be An Easy Target

  • secure your home and car by locking your doors and windows at ALL times 
  • never walk alone at night ANYWHERE
  • never open your door to a stranger and ALWAYS ask for identification when expecting workmen

Some of these sound simple and obvious. But I violated three of these prevention steps. I had a conversation outside at the pool which unintentionally announced to everyone around me that I would be home alone that afternoon. We left our front door unlocked, which allowed the rapist easy access. I had a “strange” sensation when I walked in the apartment and saw our front door locked because we usually left it unlocked for each other. But I ignored that “feeling” and walked up the stairs right into the arms of an armed, masked man.

THE KEY TO AVOID BEING  A VICTIM IS AWARENESS. Please read these, learn them, and follow them! Pass them on to your friends. You may very well save a life!

What to Do If It Happens to You

  • Immediately call 911 no matter what your attacker threatens
  • Do not change your clothes
  • Do not shower
  • Do not move or remove any item from the location of the attack
  • Write down anything you can remember immediately (race, age, height, weight, hair color, hair length, eye color, distinguishing marks, facial hair, clothes, weapon, odors
  • Go to the emergency room

This is a message I’ve shared on many college campuses and radio and television interviews. I invite you to share what you have learned today with those in your sphere of influence…girls and women you care about…it could save a life! If you do, please leave a comment and let me know who you shared it with and why.”

Thank you so much for sharing, Wendy! We so appreciate you and your vulnerability to share your story!

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Friends, sexual assault is way too common place in our culture. It is not a matter of a girl saying “no”. It is a matter of being respected and valued as a human. “Yes” means “yes” and nothing short of that! These are conversations we need to …. no let me be stronger. We must have these conversations with our daughters and friends of our daughters. We need to be talking about talking about sexual assault among us, and as women begin to stand up and say without consent there is no room for sexual activity.

We can help our daughters to be strong in situations where they do have the ability to communicate with those guys they are interacting with. With confidence, they can draw boundaries and stand by them. Then, in situations where they have been abused and violated without consent, let us bravely step up and through the power of the Holy Spirit, dismantle shame. Reach out with love and compassion and begin the healing work Jesus brings, just like He has done in the life of Wendy.

We’re doing  a giveaway today of Wendy’s book Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner. We’ll choose from one of the comments shared here to win a copy. Just share below who you need to share this message of safety with. If you are really busy just say, “I’m in!” 

I’ll announce the winner on Monday with Monday with Madi.

Lynn

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Raising World-Changers

Don't raise a good child - raise a child looking for their place to bring God's good.

 

“When God created the earth, what was His command? Be fruitful and multiply,Lysa Terkeurst pointed the Proverbs 31 Ministries staff toward a challenge this week. “When Jesus left the earth, what was His command? “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” Matthew 28:19 – 20″ On both of these occasions, God communicated multiplication. Lysa challenged us to multiply ourselves; to pass on what we are learning and living to others.

I think there is no place better to for us to multiply ourselves as believers and leaders than in the lives of our children. God didn’t give us this opportunity to invest in our kids to raise safe children. (If that was the case, I would be a complete failure. My kids are always trying something new … and often not all that safe.) He didn’t give us this opportunity to simply raise successful kids – financially, educationally or any other ally word.

He commanded us to make disciples; the type of disciples Jesus made.

World-changers.

From little on, Greg and I have purposed to expose our children to as many things that were different from them as we could. People of different color and race. People from different economic backgrounds and from different parts of the country. Our desire for them has been that they would appreciate all of God’s creation, not just the part that looked the same as them.

Next, we wanted them to understand their place within different; their place to love, serve and give to others. It is from this place of life-style giving, we can change our world. Sometimes that giving involved serving in the nursery at church or at an organization serving the poor of our city. Other times it meant befriending someone whose family was going through a tough time or was confused about who they were and where they fit in society. We have wanted them to not be afraid, but to step into the lives of people in faith, believing God, through them, can make all the difference.

It’s not your purpose to raise a good child who gets good grades, gets into a good college and gets a good job. Yes, these things are all … well, good! But more than that: raise your child to look for their place to bring God’s good! Raise a world-changer!

 

Mariah Cowell

 

Could I ask a favor of you? One of my “world-changers” gets on a plane tomorrow to go to Ethiopia with Storyteller Missions. Storyteller Missions is the missions department of America World Adoption, which exists as an adoption/orphan advocacy ministry that partners with international orphanages. Mariah and the team she is going with will bring supplies and the love of Jesus’ throughout orphanages and transition homes in Addis Ababa.

Mariah has been loving on little kids since she was old enough to serve in the church nursery with her dad. Would you please pray for her from August 6th – 16th? Pray that God will protect her and her team, that they will do the most good possible and that God will wreck her heart in the best possible way. I am believing she will come home and never be the same!

Thank you so much friends!

 

Lynn