Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Stuck on the Wrong One

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If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.”Jeremiah 29:13 (NLT)

 

“Lynn, you can’t give 100% of your heart to two people at once.”

 

I knew my counselor was right; I was stuck on the wrong one. My life revolved around my boyfriend, not around my relationship with God. I couldn’t say I was looking for God wholeheartedly; I couldn’t even say I was searching half-heartedly!

 

At 19 years old, the strong words from my counselor were not words I wanted to hear. For the first time in my life, I was in a serious relationship. My boyfriend had just given me a special ring to signify our future together. Now I was being challenged to live it apart.

 

Being wanted was what my heart had always wanted and I had finally found it. To be the one initiating a break up didn’t make sense to my young heart. But I also wanted to change. Wanted to truly follow after God with all of me. I wanted Him more than anything else, even if that included breaking up with my boyfriend.

Ever meet a girl who is completely ok with who she is? In fact, she actually likes herself! The more I turned my attention away from a guy and my self-absorbed self, the more I began to like me! I liked me because I was becoming the me He created me to be from my very beginning.

 

Soaking in His gentleness toward me, I found myself becoming more gentle with others.

Learning of His love, I became loving toward others. The more I became like Him, the more I liked me.

 

There is something charismatic; something magnetic about a girl who is happy with herself. That was the part I didn’t see coming.

 

Without a guy in my life, I had more time, energy and attention to devote to Jesus. I found myself looking for ways to get away and be with Him. As I did, I saw my confidence bloom as I was becoming more and more like the woman He created me to be.

 

Jesus promises us that as we seek Him above all else, He will give us everything we need…including confidence.

Does a young woman come to your mind that you want to find that confidence? The confidence that comes when we become less self-absorbed and more Jesus-absorbed?

 

My new book Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants might be the perfect book for her! Before it releases September 16th, I’m giving away over $50 worth of FREE downloadable resources!

Click here for more details!

I’m also giving away one BIG giveaway every single week, along with a grand prize giveaway that runs the entire four weeks! Today, we have a brand new give away! Click here for the give away page to learn more!

 

Lynn

Friday, August 22, 2014

What Good Am I?

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Thanks for stopping by today! Before I’ll share my post “What Good Am I? , let me remind you of a party going on on my Magnetic book page!

Over the next few weeks, we’ll be celebrating the release of my new Magnetic, which takes places September 16th,  in all kinds of ways!

First, if you pre-order Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants I’m giving away over $50 worth of FREE downloadable resources:

His Revolutionary Love ebook

Devotions for a Revolutionary Year ebook

* My video message Confidence Comes Closer

Printable resource The Magnetic Manifesto

* Printable resource Magnetic Journaling pages

Click here for more details!

Also over the next month, I’m giving away one BIG giveaway every single week, along with a grand prize giveaway that runs the entire four weeks! You’ll want to enter to win each and every one of them (and tell your friends to enter too!)!

Let’s head to the celebration and the place for you to sign up! Click here for the give away page!

If you are getting this via email, you must enter the give away by going to www.LynnCowell.com.

 

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What Good Am I?

“Why, when a woman walks in a room, do all the other women size her up?”

 

Where was the nearest rock? I desperately wanted to crawl under one. My husband had just pointed out what I have often seen but didn’t think others saw. Our insecurity tends to seep out in situations where we feel “less than”.

 

Greg’s comment that evening stirred inside of me a series of questions.

 

What holds us back from offering encouragement when we know most of us struggle with feelings of insecurity?

 

Why, when we have the power to help each other over come these feelings and do so much good for each other, do we not?

 

Why would I not, when I have a good thought about another, simply say it? Beautiful comments we think in our head stay in our head:

 

I noticed your kind act in the grocery store. You inspired me!

 

Your generous heart makes me want to be giving as well!

 

When I see the boldness of your faith, I’m encouraged to be bold as well.

 

The more I thought, the more I knew just how easy it could become if I would just start speaking good about others.

 

Solomon reinforced my thoughts as I read Proverbs 4:27, “Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them.” (NLT) s I read this verse My heart hearD, “Lynn, do not withhold saying good when you see good. When you speak good, you are doing My good.”

 

So, I’m starting a mantra: if I have a positive thought, I’m going to say it. It doesn’t matter if I know you or if you are a woman I’ve never met. With God’s help, I no long want to withhold good from those who deserve or those who need it, when it is in my power to help.

 

My prayer is that not only will I encourage others along the way, but my kids will see God’s goodness pouring through me and they too will be inspired to call out good in others as well. If we’ll join together and make sharing the good we see normal, we might just bring some really good change.

 

Jesus, I want to be a bringer of Your good to my world today; at the grocery store, when seeing my neighbor and as I go about my work.  Open my eyes to see good and then call it out and encourage another with the power of my words. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

My new book, Magnetic, is a study for girls based on the fruit of the Spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (NIV)

 

Why do you think we can tend to be quick to judge but not easily share the good we see?

What holds you back from sharing the good you see in others?

Lynn

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

I Hope You Win This Get Away!

Grand Prize Give Away

If you are stopping by today from my devotion, The Best Laid Plans, with Proverbs 31 Ministries welcome! I am so glad you’re here!

Today is a very special day because it marks the beginning of a month of celebrating my new release, Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants!

Over the next few weeks, we’ll be celebrating in all kinds of ways!

First, if you pre-order Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants I’m giving away over $50 worth of FREE downloadable resources:

* His Revolutionary Love ebook

* Devotions for a Revolutionary Year ebook

* My video message Confidence Comes Closer

* Printable resource The Magnetic Manifesto

* Printable resource Magnetic Journaling pages

Click here for more details!

Also over the next month, I’m giving away one BIG giveaway every single week, along with a grand prize giveaway that runs the entire four weeks! You’ll want to enter to win each and every one of them (and tell your friends to enter too!)!

Let’s head to the celebration and the place for you to sign up! Click here for the give away page!

If you are getting this via email, you must enter the give away by going to www.LynnCowell.com.

Also, don’t miss: 9 Scriptures to Pray Over Your Girl;  a must-have resource to help you pray God’s Word for your girl! Charge up your prayer life with Scriptures and claim the power of God’s promises for protection, confidence and encouragement over the girl you love! Download your FREE copy here.

Lynn

Monday, August 18, 2014

It’s Finally Here!

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Friend, I wish you were here with me right now! I just opened a box and it contained my very first copy of “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants”. 

I can’t tell you how excited I am! 

For over 12 years I’ve invested in young woman and I bet you can guess what their favorite thing is to talk about! The topic of most of their questions? The reason for much of their angst?

You got it…guys! I completely understand why! I, too, let my own inner struggles of wanted to be wanted get to me as a young woman. This was the catalyst for my writing, “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants”.

Picture a special young woman in your life. Now, imagine yourself having this conversation with her:

Do you ever wonder…

What does she have that I haven’t got?

            Why doesn’t he ask me out?

            What makes her popular? Why not me?

            What’s wrong with me?

Maybe it’s time to change the questions you’re asking and instead ask, “What does it take to become magnetic?”

Packed with revealing quizzes, interviews with guys and the tools you need to become the girl you want to be, Magnetic; Becoming the Girl He Wants will empower you to:

  •  Stop feeling powerless over your emotions and people’s opinions as you gain unshakeable confidence.
  •  Limit the draining affect of “girl drama” so you can invest your time in becoming the best you
  •  Replace the agonizing frustration of wanting to be noticed and liked with a deep assurance that you already are”

If you are like me, there are so many girls you want to see free from people’s opinions, becoming the best they can become and resting in the deep assurance that they are already incredibly wanted.

My prayer is that Magnetic will empower young women to stop fixating on “the one” and start focusing on becoming like The One. When they invest the best of who they are in becoming the girl He wants, learning and living out the fruit of the Spirit, they will reach their fullest potential.

This week is the beginning of a month of celebrating the release of “Magnetic”. When I say celebrating, I am talking great free gifts and amazing give aways.

It all starts Wednesday. Don’t miss it. These give aways you will want to be in on!

The winners from last Wednesday’s post “Wednesday Wisdom Tip: {A Must Have Conversation Before Your Girl Heads Back to School }” of “Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner” by Wendy Blight are:

Dede who posted on 8/13 at 8:00 a.m.

Faith who posted on 8/13 at 7:24 a.m.

The winner from Friday’s post When to Say “Yes” & When to Say “No” & a Gift to Help  {Give Away Day} of “The Best Yes” gift pack by Lysa TerKeurst is Debbie who posted on 8/15 at 9:18 a.m.

Dede, Faith and Debbie: please email me at Lynn@LynnCowell.com with your full name and address and I’ll get your give aways right out!

See you on Wednesday friends with my first give away for Magnetic!

 

OK…I just couldn’t keep it a secret! This week’s give away is going to be a Keurig! Coffee, just in time for back to school mornings!!

 

SEE YOU WEDNESDAY!

Lynn

Friday, August 15, 2014

When to Say “Yes” & When to Say “No” & a Gift to Help {Give Away Day}

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Happy Friday friends! I know many of you already know my friend, Lysa TerKeurst, but did you know she is releasing a life changing book this week? I am so excited to be participating in her “The Best Yes” Blog Tour along with many other inspiring bloggers because this book has already helped me tremendously and I so want it to help others!  To learn more and join us, CLICK HERE.

I was blessed to get an advanced copy of “The Best Yes” back in June. I just couldn’t put it down. In fact, just as I was reaching the 5 Questions to Ask When Making a Decision, I was put in the position to have to make a decision with one of my kids. While I would love to think I always make wise choices that are not emotionally based…I would be delusional to say so! This fork-in-the-road was so heavy on the hearts of my husband and I. As we discussed just what we should do, I pulled out “The Best Yes” and with the help of God’s word and the practical points in the book, we made a very hard “best yes” decision together.

You can guess I am keeping this book near by for the next time my heart wants to say “yes” but when the best answer is “no”.

 

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As I read it, I kept thinking of how powerful it would be to teach our kids how to make “best yes” decisions now, while they are in the middle of life-altering choices. So I got copies for each of my girls.

You know sometimes when you give your girl a book, you really don’t know if it will get read or not.

While at the beach, one of my daughters was stung by a sting ray. Laid up with a very painful foot, she posted her hammock and climbed in. I loved discovering how she was spending her time:

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I am so excited to give one of you this “The Best Yes” give away!

 

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To be entered to win this drawing, share why you would like to win “The Best Yes” and who you want to win it for. If today is a busy day, just say in the comments below “I’m in!”. If you get my posts by email, be sure to head back to my website at www.LynnCowell.com to enter!

If you’re ready to get your copy now, you can grab a copy at http://goo.gl/ZFUZbD!

I’ll announce the winner Monday along with the winners from Wednesday’s post  “A Must Have Conversation Before Your Girl Heads Back to School”!

Lynn

You Can Make the Best Yes Decisions {Give Away Day}

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Happy Monday friends! I know many of you already know my friend, Lysa TerKeurst, but did you know she is releasing a life changing book this week? I am so excited to be participating in her “The Best Yes” Blog Tour along with many other inspiring bloggers because this book has already helped me tremendously and I so want it to help others!  To learn more and join us, CLICK HERE.

I was blessed to get an advanced copy of “The Best Yes” back in June. I just couldn’t put it down. In fact, just when I was reaching the 5 Questions to Ask When Making a Decision, I was put in the position to have to make a decision with one of my kids. While I would love to think I am capable of making wise choices that are not emotionally based…I would just be delusional to say so! This fork-in-the-road was so heavy on the hearts of my husband and I. As we discussed just what we should do, I pulled out “The Best Yes” and with the help of God’s word and the practical points in the book, we made a very hard “best yes” decision together.

You can guess I am keeping this book near by for the next time my heart wants to say “yes” but when the best answer is “no”.

 

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As I read it, I kept thinking of how powerful it would be to teach our kids how to make “best yes” decisions now, while they are in the middle of life-altering choices. So I got copies for each of my girls.

While at the beach, one of my daughters was stung by a sting ray. While laid up with a very painful foot, she posted her hammock and climbed in. I loved discovering how she was spending her time:

MadiInstagram

 

I am so excited to give one of you this “The Best Yes” decision making give away!

 

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To be entered to win this drawing, share why you would like to win “The Best Yes” and who you want to win it for. If today is a busy day, just say in the comments below “I’m in!”. If you get my posts by email, be sure to head back to my website at www.LynnCowell.com to enter!

If you’re ready to get your copy now, you can grab a copy at http://goo.gl/ZFUZbD!

I’ll announce the winner Monday!

Lynn

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: {A Must Have Conversation Before Your Girl Heads Back to School }

“How I wish someone had shared with me what I’m about to share with you. If they had, perhaps the events of June 7, 1987 would have ended very differently.”

 

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I’ve asked my friend and fellow Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker Wendy Blight to share today her journey of healing from sexual assault…from victim to victor! To read the post, click here. For a free chapter from my book, Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner, sharing my story, click here.

A few years ago, Oprah Radio invited me to Chicago to share my story and the facts, statistics and practical lessons I learned from my experience. I’m sharing that same information with you today. I write this NOT to instill fear but to inform and educate. I invite you to read through to the end…inform and educate yourself… and share it with your friends.

I want to share with you…

  • The facts
  • The effects
  • Ways to prevent becoming a victim
  • What to do if it happens to you

The Facts

  • Did you know that 1 out of 4 college women are sexually assaulted every year?
  • Did you know that 1 out of 6 women some time during their lifetime will be the victim of sexual assault?
  • Did you know that approximately 60 percent of sexual assaults go unreported every year? And 97 percent of rapists will never spend a day in jail.

The Effects

Victims of sexual assault are:

  • 3 times more likely to suffer from depression.
  • 6 times more likely to suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder.
  • 13 times more likely to abuse alcohol.
  • 26 times more likely to abuse drugs.
  • 4 times more likely to contemplate suicide.

(Statistics taken from RAINN )

For help, contact 1-800-656-HOPE

Ways to Prevent Becoming a Victim

Monday I shared spiritual lessons I’ve learned through my journey of healing. But I have also gained practical wisdom and want to pass it on to you to keep you S.A.F.E and protect you and those you love from being a victim.

Sexual assault Is A Crime Of Opportunity!!! What do I mean by that? Rarely is a woman assaulted by a stalker. A perpetrator selects his victim because, by her unintentional actions, she has made herself an easy target. By following a few simple steps, you can avoid being an easy target. I learned some of these first hand. Please share them with all the women you know!

S - Avoid Compromising Situations

When you go out….

  • never leave your drink unattended (alcoholic and non-alcoholic)
  • never accept a drink from a stranger and accept drinks only when you see the bartender pour it and hand it directly to you
  • never leave the keys to your home with anyone (valet, service station, car wash)
  • never be alone with someone you do not know
  • always be sure a friend or family member knows who you are with and where you are going

A - Be Aware of Your Surroundings

  • know where you are at all times
  • know what is going on around you
  • know who is around you
  • never have conversations within range of a stranger that reveal you will be home alone, closing a business alone, traveling alone, etc.

F - Go With Your Feelings

  • if your intuition tells you something is not right, pay attention and respond (chills down your spine, hair stands on end)
  • flee if you feel uneasy or uncomfortable
  • call 911 if you sense danger
  • never ignore your feelings because they may save your life

E - Don’t Be An Easy Target

  • secure your home and car by locking your doors and windows at ALL times 
  • never walk alone at night ANYWHERE
  • never open your door to a stranger and ALWAYS ask for identification when expecting workmen

Some of these sound simple and obvious. But I violated three of these prevention steps. I had a conversation outside at the pool which unintentionally announced to everyone around me that I would be home alone that afternoon. We left our front door unlocked, which allowed the rapist easy access. I had a “strange” sensation when I walked in the apartment and saw our front door locked because we usually left it unlocked for each other. But I ignored that “feeling” and walked up the stairs right into the arms of an armed, masked man.

THE KEY TO AVOID BEING  A VICTIM IS AWARENESS. Please read these, learn them, and follow them! Pass them on to your friends. You may very well save a life!

What to Do If It Happens to You

  • Immediately call 911 no matter what your attacker threatens
  • Do not change your clothes
  • Do not shower
  • Do not move or remove any item from the location of the attack
  • Write down anything you can remember immediately (race, age, height, weight, hair color, hair length, eye color, distinguishing marks, facial hair, clothes, weapon, odors
  • Go to the emergency room

This is a message I’ve shared on many college campuses and radio and television interviews. I invite you to share what you have learned today with those in your sphere of influence…girls and women you care about…it could save a life! If you do, please leave a comment and let me know who you shared it with and why.

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We’re doing  a giveaway today of Wendy’s book Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner. We’ll choose two comments to win a copy. I’ll announce the winner on Monday. 

Lynn

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: The Danger of the Classroom

“What are you passionate about?”

At a conference with nearly 800 women who feel called to speak and write, this is one question I ask at She Speaks over and over again.

Her answer: the classroom.

A professor, the gal at my breakfast table began to share how so many parents are missing the mark when they send their kids off to college. “They are so worried about the drugs, drinking and sex,” she said. “They are missing the danger in the classroom.”

Many of you, like me, have already sent your child off to college and seen the tremendous influence professors have on the hearts and minds of our children.

But what about teachers in the younger years? They also have just as much power in our children’s lives.

My kids have had some amazing teachers over the years. Teachers who have inspired them to learn. Empowered them to over difficulties in processing information. Adults who have instilled in them confidence they have carried with them.

Unfortunately, they have also had very difficult experiences. Ridiculed for their faith. Told they were foolish to believe in God, go to church or believe “that stuff”; right there in their public high school.

As our child head back-to-school, let’s do more than pick out new clothes and fill their backpacks. Have a discussion today with your child about the power of the classroom. Encourage them to discuss conversations that are confusing or cause them to doubt their faith while also celebrating the teachers helping them to reach their fullest potential!

Lynn

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Let God Chisel

The winner from Monday’s post, When Our Heart Pushes for What We Really Don’t Want is Patricia who posted on July 28, 2014 at 12:53 pm Congratulations Patricia! Please send me your full name and address and I’ll get Let.It.Go by Karen Ehman sent right out! 

 

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“…and our daughters will be like pillars carved to adorn a palace.” Psalm 144:12 (NIV)

David, the writer of such beautiful words. I wonder what he would have thought of a statue carved of him, known around the world simply by his name. Chiseled from marble by Michelangelo, it’s beauty is recognized as one of the greatest pieces of art ever created.

The process to move from a chunk of stone to the masterpiece came one chip at a time.

While the statue David stands tall in Italy, the real David, King David, had his character carved in the day to day life of being a shepherd. There in the fields, leading the tough life in the elements and fighting the wild. David learned to be dependent on God; to trust him and serve him no matter what.

The fields, where life was any thing but easy, is where God chiseled David to live in a palace.

If our daughters are going to be carved into pillars to adorn a palace, forming beautiful and godly character God, we have to get out of the way. We can’t try and protect them from everything that brings a challenge or pain. It is often these difficult circumstances that God can use to prepare them for life as the daughter of the King.

 

 

Lynn

Monday, July 28, 2014

When Our Heart Pushes For What We Really Don’t Want

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The warning signs of pushing toward our wrong wants…

I would venture to say you don’t even need me to help you see them. I think we all know the sense when our heart says, “Don’t go there” and yet we still do.

That feeling when our heart starts beating harder or the mild panic whispering “you might not get your way”.

I’m all too familiar with that feeling. In fact, I experienced it this morning.

Yesterday, I asked my husband a request concerning an upcoming vacation. Something I would like to add, that isn’t Greg’s favorite thing to do. And he said, “We’ll see.”

“We’ll see”. Just between me and you, can I tell you, that’s not what I really wanted to hear. What I wanted to hear was, “Sure, that would be great.”

For me, “we’ll see” means I’m going to have to bring it up again to get my answer. So, with everything in me, I wanted me to bring it up…this morning.

This morning, when my husband was in a bit of a hurry to get to work.

This morning, when he was probably having a hard time started a new work week.

This morning…

Everything in me said, “You had better find out now if you’re going to get what you want. Time is ticking. You need to get it arranged.”

“Thank you Holy Spirit for holding me back from me?” is all I can say. Not that I listen and obey every time. I so don’t. And when I don’t, I end up getting what I didn’t want.

But this morning, with His help, I made my bed instead of opening my mouth.

So, that’s all I’ve got. Hear the warning signs…your heart beat and your heart words. It’s probably the Holy Spirit.

Slow down. Give yourself a time out (make your bed!) and ask the Holy Spirit to give you His peace and power so you don’t get what you really don’t want.

 

Lynn