Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Know the Effects of Selfie Trends on Our Kids

 

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The winner from yesterday’s post, Helping You Put on Your Best Outfit, of the of the Magnetic book and bracelet, is Patricia B who posted at 5:05 p.m. at 9/30/2014. Congratulations, Patricia! 

 

We’ve seen our kids take them and we take them too!

The selfie…

They seem so fun and innocent…and I am sure most of the time they are. But my research this weekend revealed something we might not have expected.

According to a new study by the American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery (AAFPRS), the rise of ‘selfies’ is having a huge impact in the facial plastic surgery industry. Here’s some scary statistics we should be concerned about:

* 1 in 3 surgeons saw an increase due to patients being more self aware of looks in social media.

* 13% of doctors surveyed identified patients’ dissatisfaction with their own image on social media sites as a rising trend in practice.

* 10% – the increase in rhinoplasty in 2013 over 2012

“Social platforms like Instagram, Snapchat and the iPhone app Selfie.im, which are solely image based, force patients to hold a microscope up to their own image and often look at it with a more self-critical eye than ever before,” says Edward Farrior, MD, President of the American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery. “These images are often the first impressions young people put out there to prospective friends, romantic interests and employers and our patients want to put their best face forward.” – “Selfie Trend Increases Demands for Facial Plastic Surgery” 

It’s important for us to be aware of this growing trend and respond to it.

First, let’s be mindful to be positive about our own body image. Seemingly small comments about our size and shape are soaking in to the hearts and minds of our kids. They are listening to the comments we make – good and bad.

Next, being over focused on their appearance is having long term effects on our children’s self-esteem.  Let’s open up dialogue with our kids and draw this topic of self-awareness and body image out in the open. Ask questions about how they view themselves and help them embrace the beauty God has given each and every one of them! Try memorizing scripture together and holding each other accountable for the words you use to describe your bodies.

Lynn

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

A {Give Away Day}Helping You Put on Your Best Outfit

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If you are joining me here today from my Proverbs 31 Ministries Devotion “Letting Love Be My Go-To Outfit” welcome!

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When I’m packing to go to a speaking event or a family special occasion, I search my closet carefully, looking for the best outfit I have. I bypass my hole-covered jeans, my dirty hiking boots and worn out sweatshirt, even though they are what I am most comfortable in. Instead of picking what is easiest, I purposefully make a decision and choose what fits the occasion and is most attractive.

I so want to do the same each day in my life. Slowing down. Not slipping “on” irritation, annoyance, or impatience. I want to be purposeful, in each situation I find myself in, to choose love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control. Those traits that are not only beautiful in the sight of my Jesus, but are attractive to others too.

I know I don’t have you tell you, this is really hard. Our heart and mind easily gravitate what comes naturally. It takes so much more effort and self-control to not say and do what’s “natural”.

 

I’m trying to teach my daughters to do the same. To not let everything that comes into their head come out of their mouth. All too often those thoughts don’t honor God, nor do they help us become the woman we want to be.

We must carefully choose the words we say, the attitudes we have and the actions we take. Each day, in every situation, we’ve got one shot to make the right decision. And we can do that when we rely on the Holy Spirit, seeking Him and allowing His power and traits to flow through us. One choice at a time…we’re becoming the women He wants.

One thing that can help us in these situations we find ourselves in are visual reminders. At my events, I share with girls magnets they can put in their lockers at school: Gorgeous is more than a face in the mirror. Gorgeous is also a condition of the heart, love shown through my actions.

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To help you and a young girl in your life put on love, today I’m giving away the Magnetic bracelet as another visual reminder for us to become the “girl” He wants; one who displays the fruit of the Spirit each day.

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Created by our ministry partner, Fashion & Compassion, the Magnetic bracelet  was designed by my daughter, Madi and I as acompanion to go with Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants at our A Magnetic Experience. 

A stunning hammered brass button featuring “Magnetic Gal. 5:22-23″ handmade by a group of vulnerable women in Mexico is the centerpiece of this trendy, wrap-style bracelet. Semi-precious gemstone beads have been hand-strung between genuine dark brown leather cord by women overcoming hardship & exploitation in Charlotte, NC. A portion of the proceeds organizations service exploited & abused women & children. Two adjustable closures measuring 14″ and 15″ in length. A tag with the product story, autographed by the artisan, is attached to the bracelet.

 Today, I’m giving away the Magnetic bracelet and the companion book, Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants to one blessed girl. To enter for the opportunity to win, share with me in the comments below a girl you know who displays the fruit of the Spirit or one you are investing in who you hope will develop these traits. (I’m so sorry…you must share in the comments section of my blog; emailed entries will not count. If you are receiving this post via email, please click here to head over to my site.)

I’ll announce the winner on my Wednesday Wisdom Tip tomorrow!

 

 

Lynn

Sunday, September 28, 2014

{Give Away} Win Tickets to “A Magnetic Experience”!

We want YOU to join us at A Magnetic Experience

and you can win your tickets!

 

Yes, now, you can WIN your way to A Magnetic Experience!

**Grand Prize Winner** (2): GIRLS NIGHT OUT! You and 2 of your BFFs will receive free passes to A Magnetic Experience Event & head over to Ben & Jerry’s ice cream after Friday night’s activities (your ticket purchase will be refunded to you, and additional ticket provided)

**1st Place Winner** (2): 2 Free Passes to A Magnetic Experience Event (your ticket purchase will be refunded to you, and additional ticket provided)

**2nd Place Winners** (5): Personalized signed copies of Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants

What is A Magnetic Experience all about?

{Sorry, adults, you have to sit this one out but we need your help: please share this with the girls you love!}

A Magnetic Experience is not for the adults, only for you.

This event created by girls for girls includes:

 Fashion {done the right way!}: With a show & make-up consulting too!

 Jewelry making, photo-booth fun, & artistic expression painting

 Pizza {ifyou register early!}

 A cause you’ll believe in - Fashion & Compassion {helping women living in poverty by creating & selling home-made goods/jewelry}
ALL proceeds go toward changing lives of women around the world!

 You’ll hear from the boys: what do they find attractive?

{are you ready to hear the God-honest truth?}

~Oh and yes, there will be only ONE speaking session by me {are you BRAVE enough?}

Don’t miss this incredible experience.

Can’t come? Please forward this email to someone who might!

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A Magnetic Experience Giveaway

Lynn

Saturday, September 27, 2014

It’s Time to Do Some Yelling

You and I have had this dialogue before.

We get tired of praying the same prayers.

We’ve made our prayer journals. Together, we’ve prayed for our kids. But some days, when we don’t see the progress we’re looking for in those we love, praying can be down right discouraging!

Maybe it’s time to start yelling for your girl. 

You might be very familiar with Jeremiah 29:12 (the new study I’m doing Just RISE UP! directed me there this morning). I decided to dig in instead of rolling over it this verse I’ve read many times.

Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.” Jeremiah 29:12 (NIV) 

I find it way to easy to skim over verses I have heard over and over and over again. Do you struggle with the same? My Hebrew-Greek study Bible helps me get past this complacency I easily fall into. I began to see just how God defines “call”…and I was surprised.

When I think of the word call, I think of the action I take when telling Madi it’s time for dinner. Depending on the level of her music at the time, I’ll choose to simply raise my voice a bit…or truly yell if needed.

In the original language this part of the Bible was written in, call can mean: to cry out; to name; to proclaim, pronounce, preach. “Essentially denotes the enunciation of a specific message which is usually addressed to a specific recipient and intended to elicit a specific response.”

Here’s where I was surprised to find what the Bible was telling me to do to God: yell at God. My Bible says:  “The term signifies shouting, calling loudly, in order to get someone’s attention to initiate contact. Sometimes it indicates sustained calling.”  Yep – yell.

This verse starts out “Then you will call…”

Then? When?

In the verses prior, God is talking about rescuing His people from the captivity of the Babylonians. Some of us definitely have our kids caught in the enemy’s captivity. We need God to plan and execute a rescue.

I want and need God to hear me and move, to perform the plans for me and my family for good, to give us a hope and a future, to reach our fullest potential in Him as He mentions in verse 11. According to this definition of “call” in Jeremiah 29:12, these plans are set into motion when I call. When I cry out, preach, shout loudly for a long time to God. When I pray which means to plead, on the behalf of someone else, He will listen. He will hear, giving His undivided attention and understand my need.

And He will deliver.

It sounds to me that desperate needs require desperate prayers. Prayers that involve some shouting, yelling and calling out to God.

There…you’ve been given permission, actually encouraged, to go on and doing some yelling today, friend!

 

Need some help knowing what to “yell”? Here are some prayer prompts you can shout to God for your girl to become the girl He wants; a girl living out her fullest potential in Him! Just click here for this free download.

 

Lynn

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Kim Kardashian: Hollywood – What Is Your Girl Playing?

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Last month, Kim Kardashian: Hollywood, became the hottest free-to download mobile app for Android and iOS .

From new outfits to parties and endorsements, our girls can now “live the life” right through their devices. Which gives me reason to be concerned.

Why? you’re thinking. We grew up playing Barbies or pretending to date Scott Baio. Fantasy didn’t harm us. (Ok, maybe that part was just me)

This game takes imagination to a different level.

For starters, the entire plot of the game is based on buying expensive outfits, nights out and estates. Players can choose their sexuality: straight or not. Not to mention, in order to “get ahead” this free game becomes another place for young people to “spend” money, real money, to get what they want in their fantasy world – a social or romantic life, dreamy wardrobe, and getting rich quick.

For many, this game becomes highly addictive. According to psychologist Simon Moore, part of a psychological insights consultant group, what allures players to spend money on this game is the graphics. 

“Psychologically we are predominantly visual creatures,” Moore told Yahoo Tech. “We are in fact predators — our eyes are on the front of our faces — as a result, our brain gives a lot of attention to visual stimuli.” According to Moore, the rounded-out avatars are meant to max out our sensors. “The exaggerated make and shake of the female body: large eyes, amazing hair, are all things designed to be attractive and engaging visually.”

Screenshot of Kim Kardashian: Hollywood

Check out my amazing hair flip. 

Kim Kardashian: Hollywood is one more message sending the wrong message. True beauty is not found in the right outfit, hair flip or shoes. Beauty, which draws others to us and opens doors for us to share the Giver of Beauty, comes when we invest our time, energy, emotions and yes, money, in becoming more like Jesus.

Open up a dialogue today with the girls in your life by simply asking: Why do you think this game is so popular? Invest in listening to your girl. You might find she sees right through the messages this game is sending. If not, this might be just the open door you’re looking for.

Needing a copy of Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants? Renee Swope is giving away 3 copies on her post Got a Girl You Love?. Stop by!

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Lynn

Thursday, September 18, 2014

FREE Online Bible Study for You & Your Girl

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Can I just tell you I love FREE?

Free…I’ll take three :)

Here is an opportunity for you to invest in the girl in your life, and her friends too, for FREE!

Join the Whatever Girls for their fall Online Bible Study of “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants” .

 

Again, the study is FREE and starts Monday, September 29 and runs until October 27.

 

There will also be some conference calls with me and some special guests.

Please join us. Just having others going through the study together helps us to be intentional to do what we want to do and sometimes find so hard to do…invest in our girls and those girls around us!

Click HERE to register and for more information.

 

Lynn

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: I Don’t Want to Fit In

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“Then a herald shouted out, “People of all races and nations and languages, listen to the king’s command! When you hear the sound of the horn, flute, zither, lyre, harp, pipes, and other musical instruments, bow to the ground to worship King Nebuchadnezzar’s gold statue. Anyone who refuses to obey will immediately be thrown into a blazing furnace.” Daniel 3:4-6 (NLT)

I knew I needed to stop talking about him, but as a new bride, I just couldn’t. Fresh and new, I could often be found talking about my amazing husband!

In my work environment though, I quickly realized being happy while being married wasn’t all that popular. The positive comments I made about my husband stood out from the daily hubby bashing of my peers. So it didn’t take me long to find my own complaints about marriage to add to the conversations.

I worked to find something negative about Greg to throw in the fire. But though my words fit in well with my peers, my negative comments hurt my heart. I knew better. It wasn’t a matter of simply letting something slip; I was choosing to be someone I was not.

When we hear the word “peer pressure”, we often think of just teenagers. But pressure to conform doesn’t go away once we leave our school days. It isn’t limited to just one age, people or status group. In one form or another, every culture is influenced by pressure to belong.

In our key verse today, King Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon had set up an image which he commanded people of all races and nations and languages to bow down to. All people, of all types, were subject to his pressure to conform.

We, too, are daily under pressure.

To conform by bad mouthing about our spouses. To keep our clothes, cars or condos up to date. To meet society’s demands about body image. Daily we can be pushed to “bow down” to the gods of bellyaching, buying, and beauty.

My early marriage days are long gone, but I still experience the pressure of society’s standards.

But I’ve decided: I don’t want to do it any more.

I don’t want to fit in if fitting in means I go against God’s best for His glory and my good.

Like the three brave young men who stood up to the king in Daniel 3, we can be brave. We can reach out to our Jesus for the strength, courage and determination to not “bow down” to culture’s definition of behavior. Boldly, we can choose to be women who exude the traits of Jesus – the fruit of the Spirit. And in turn, we can teach our daughters to be bold too!

When we display love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control we become different.

And it’s a different that is gorgeous and godly.

Jesus, it is all too easy for me to just go along each day with what society calls “normal”. Yet You call me to stand up and stand out for You. Help me today to choose to be different; choose to allow Your life to flow through mine. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Galatians 5:22-23, “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!” (NLT)

Can you think of a young woman you would like to empower to be bold; to go against culture’s definition of beauty to glorify God? Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants gives girls the tools they need to do just that!

For every copy of Magnetic purchased today, Lynn is giving away a free magnet with the quote, “Gorgeous is more than a face in the mirror” (like the graphic today).

 

Just send me a copy of your receipt along with your mailing address to assistant4lynn@gmail.com and I’ll get it sent right out!

 

Lynn

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Gorgeous is More Than A Face In A Mirror

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Loosing weight.

    Shopping the right stores.

           Getting designer make-up.

For over 13 years I have watched girls do all the “right” things for the guy they wanted.

If they thought it would attract “him”, they tried it. And often, after changing the way they looked, the way they acted and the girl they actually were…he still didn’t want them.

And so she starts asking, “What’s wrong with me?”

What if we came alongside her; helping her reach past becoming what she thinks someone else wants to something even greater?

Instead of fixating on what that guy wants, she switched her focus. Started investing her time, energy and emotions becoming the girl He wants. God.

* A girl who focuses on others; makes them feel loved.

* So joyful; she’s fun to be around!

* Resisting girl drama; she’s peaceful.

* Patient with others; she has time for them.

* Kind and good. “I was only joking” isn’t a line she has to use.

* Faithful; she has your back not talks behind it. Not needing attention, she’s kind and gentle.

* Comfortable with who she is, she’s intentional about her choices because her priority is honoring herself and her God.

A girl like that, displaying the fruit of the Spirit, or what I call the captivating characteristics, is magnetic.  

She’s absolutely gorgeous!  

book_bannerI am so excited! Today is finally the date of the Magnetic release!

Packed with revealing quizzes, interviews with guys and the tools your girl needs to become the girl God wants her to be, (the girl she wants to be!) Magnetic; Becoming the Girl He Wants will empower her to:

  •  Stop feeling powerless over her emotions and people’s opinions as she gains unshakeable confidence.
  • Limit the draining affect of “girl drama” so she can invest her time in becoming the best she can be.
  •  Replace the agonizing frustration of wanting to be noticed and liked with a deep assurance that she already is!

 

Order her a copy today!

If you purchase Magnetic through Proverbs 31 Ministries today, I’ll be sure to sign it!

Not sure if Magnetic is the right book for your girl? Learn more and read the first few chapters here for free!

Today, at Proverbs 31 Ministries, on my devotion, Dying to My Selfie, my publisher is giving away 10 copies of Magnetic. Stop by at www.Proverbs31.org!

Lynn

Monday, September 15, 2014

Last Two Days to Enter This Week’s Give Away!

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Wow! I can’t believe we are already on our last week of Magnetic give aways!

This week’s give away is…

A Year’s Worth of Pedicures

 

Beautiful toes year round! How wonderful!

 

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And for the Magnetic Book Launch Party GRAND PRIZE GIVEAWAY

An All-Expenses Paid Weekend Getaway

This trip includes:
• Round-trip airfare for two from anywhere in the U.S. to Charlotte, NC
(up to $800)

• Two-night, three-day stay at the Hampton Suites Phillips Place Court
(you pick the dates!)

• Pedicures for you and your girl with Lynn and her girls

• Transportation to and from the airport

• 2 personalized signed copies of Magnetic!

{also included, should you choose to come October 10 – 11th, the weekend includes tickets for you and your girl to attend the Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants conference here in Charlotte!}

Be sure to click here to enter! 

 

Lynn

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Did You Make the List Too?

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Did you make out your list too?

You know, that list, of all of the qualities you were looking for in a guy.

Honest
       Stable
           Hard working
                Funny…

With my list in my head and in my heart, I began the search.

When you’re 19 years old, finding a guy with all the traits of your 49 year old dad can be pretty hard to find. Can I get an Amen!

Here’s what I wish someone had told me: switch your focus. Focus on becoming the girl God wants you to be.

Put your time, effort and energy into developing who you are. Give your attention to cultivating love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control.

Focus on becoming the girl God wants you to become, a girl reaching her fullest potential in Christ, and let God take care of bringing a guy.

The girl who invests her time, energy, and emotions, not on a guy she doesn’t have, but on the One she does makes a move. She moves from obsessing over why she isn’t wanted to becoming the type of girl a guy would want. Not just as someone to date, but as the one he’d want to spend the rest of his life with. And that outcome is just a byproduct!

The true benefit is becoming a girl with confidence. The girl who grows more like Jesus grows to like herself more.

 

Today, share this graphic with your girl on her favorite social media: Instagram, Twitter, Facebook! Help her switch her focus.

 

Don’t miss the last Magnetic give away this week – A year’s worth of pedicures! Just the sound of it is terrific! Click here to enter or go to http://www.lynncowell.com/giveaways/

Also, this is the last week to receive $50 in free resources for pre-ordering Magnetic. Click here for more information or go to http://www.lynncowell.com/magnetic/!

 

Lynn