Aug 26

Wednesday Wisdom Tip: Help Her Develop Confidence

To help our child gain confidence, we have to help them discover Perfect Love.


I’m guessing that like me, you’ve seen your girl have to be confident – or not be confident – sometime in the past couple of weeks. Heading back to school has a way of pulling on our kids.


If we’ve seen our kids lacking confidence, how can we help them to develop this trait that they will need for the rest of their lives?


Confidence in a girl’s life comes from knowing she is loved. It begins in a young girl when she knows she is loved unconditionally in her home. Her parents listen to her feelings, allow her to be heard and provide security. As she grows, in fact as soon as she can read, it is time to begin to teach her, that yes, your family is here to love you, but it is most important to turn to Unlimited Love every day. Teach her to read God’s word; fill her heart. Teach her to base her value – her worth – not on the new one at school crushing on her in class or if the girls invite her to their party, but on Perfect Love.


Culture teaches “Girl Power”. “You can be anything you want to be.” “Go out there and get it.” In 2003, the diamond industry started a marketing promotion “Women of the World, Raise Your Right Hand”; a diamond on your right hand showing your success on your own! There is one problem: when our girls base their confidence on accomplishments, success or boys…these are all things that they can loose. Confidence boosters that may or may not be permanent.


We must teach them to base their confidence on the one thing that cannot be taken from them: the love of Jesus. Early, teach her to base her value – her worth – not on the little boy crushing on her in her class, if the girls invite her to their party, the trophy she got in the tournament this weekend or that straight A report card, but on Perfect Love.


“For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height…to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end, Amen.” ~ Ephesians 3:14-21




His Revolutionary Love

Are you concerned your girl may look for love in the wrong places? You can help empower your girl to have confidence and a higher self-esteem to that she runs to the right place each time she feels needy.


What people are saying

"If you are looking for a speaker who will inspire your community to become the women that God desires for them to be, Lynn Cowell is the perfect choice. In our planning meetings in the months prior, Lynn shared her heart and her years of experience. Even though she was miles away in North Carolina and we were in Illinois, she helped equip our team with helpful ideas for marketing and planning our conference. The feedback after the conference was overwhelming with what a wonderful impact she had on not only on the teens, moms, step moms and grandmothers who were deeply touched to help the young women in their life stay encouraged to choose wisely and follow God’s path for their lives. God has gifted her with the ability to reach young girls with the message that our identity must be in Christ and not in what their friends, boyfriends or media is pushing on them."

Lisa Teichmiller — Revolution “Strong Women... Stronger Daughters”, Conference Planning Team

Christ’s Church Effingham, Illinois