Nov 30

It Didn’t Go as Planned

Phil. 1:6 says He will continue the good work He has begun in us until it is completed.


Stacking up the pretty, but unused plates, I decided to go ahead and leave the Be Thankful right on top where I had put them earlier that morning. Maybe I’ll get to use them next year. I might as well just leave them so they are ready. I tried to think of something positive to push out my thoughts loaded with disappointment.

Thanksgiving morning wasn’t what I thought it would be. If fact, it was nothing like I had planned.

When I had whisked together the sunny eggs earlier that morning, I hadn’t picture myself moving the breakfast casserole from the oven to the refrigerator. There just wasn’t time for the peaceful meal together that I had envisioned. Now, we needed to scurry and get to the day’s celebration. Besides, my son had texted to say he wouldn’t be able to make it. Eating with the empty place setting would have just made me sad.

Maybe next year I thought as I slid the rarely used clear plates back into the upper-most cupboard.

Me and expectations. Even now I cry as I type this days later.

Expectations have always been a big struggle for me. There is a war inside me, caught between the mom, daughter and wife I want to be and the reality I hear in my mind.

And so I struggle.There seems to be no middle ground. I’m either failing to communicate my expectations or I over set them.

Yet, Jesus says there is hope for me and for you, too, if you wrestle with unmet expectations!

Jesus promises us that each day, if we choose to set our expectations on Him, instead of on others, He will keep His work that He has begun in us going.

“being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6 (NIV)

Every day we are becoming. If we place our confidence in the right place, the One who has begun the work,  we rest knowing He will finish the work of making us more like Him.

So today, I will choose to be confident. Confident that He will do in me what I cannot do in myself – make me more and more like Him. More compassionate. More loving. More gracious and merciful. More flexible and unselfish. More like Jesus. Working on me and in me until the day when He returns.

My part is to focus on the good; to be thankful.

My whole family did have some special moments together … it was just a few days later. And unlike Thanksgiving Day, our annual tree cutting day did meet my expectations.

Things don't always go as planned. Our expectations are smashed. Can things ever change?

Another reminder – some days will. Some days won’t. Be either way, Jesus, keep working Your completion in me!











What are you hopes and expectations as the holidays approach?

What can you do to help set those expectations in the right place as the holidays get closer?



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